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Post by live4him on Nov 9, 2005 15:30:31 GMT -5
Hi all.
I have joined this board 2 times in the past. I am back yet again. I have been addicted to p and mb for 20 years. I travel a lot for my job, and am required to have a laptop computer. Needless to say, I struggle daily. I will be posting and interacting here in the hope that I will find the support I need.
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johno
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Post by johno on Nov 11, 2005 16:06:32 GMT -5
just joined today and hope that i can kick this dreadfull habit. I think that this website may be able to give me the support that i need. thanks
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Post by Scuban on Nov 18, 2005 19:40:20 GMT -5
For the new people who need help breaking porn and/or sex addiction, pat yourselves on the back for deciding to change and admiting that you have a problem. It is the most important first step in recovery. This website is an excellent way to supplement your efforts to quit. Here are some things that I recommend to supplement your recovery:- Please keep in mind that all the advice that you will recieve here isn't always going to be impartial as there are people who are angry about their situation and won't always respond in kind. You may consider going to a therapist if that is what you want. There are women here whose SO (Significant Other) are porn junkies and they have been really hurt by it and understandbly so. Try hard to ignore those who are reacting in anger to their own pain.
- Get a good software program that blocks porn and/or limits your time online. My time control software has given me a new sense of hope and I have been clean since I started using it. Being online could get boring and being "kicked off" made me find other more constructive things to-do besides falling back into a porn site.
- Disable pictures from being displayed (which by the way will speed up webpage downloads those of us who are still using dial-up) You can do this on Internet Explorer by click on the the TOOLS on the menu bar, then click INTERNET OPTIONS on the drop down menu, next click on the ADVANCED tab and scroll down until you see MULTIMEDIA and uncheck SHOW PICTURES. Now no pictures will be shown unless you "right-click" the box where the picture should be and click Show Picture. This is one option from staying away being porn-free.
- Men, especially those without SOs, read the hurt that women here on this board are feeling because of their porn-addicted husbands. See where this habit can lead to and take steps so that you don't do the same hurtful things to your (future) wives.
- Read books and go to informational website about this condition. Many will be shared by the members here. Be tenacious and stay hopeful. You are not alone so don't feel too guilty and kick yourself too hard. You will get better.
- Find other hobbies to pass time. Books are a good way to escape as is walking or going to a gym.
- Come here before you 'slip" into watching porn again. Reach out to someone here as there are many who know how you feel and have been there before.
Stay strong, --Scuban
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onw04
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Post by onw04 on Nov 27, 2005 17:35:25 GMT -5
Hi everyone. I joined this board for the first time today. I have had trouble for the past few years with masturbating and have started to become hooked on porn and I don't want to become addicted. Hopefully this board will help.
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Post by CleanOut on Dec 1, 2005 18:27:11 GMT -5
I have been reading posts here for about a month, and it has given me quite a bit to think about. It was the quiz about p addiction that first showed me that I might have a problem. I have only begun to realize how deeply my life has been affected by p in the thirteen years I've sought it out. I got into unhealthy relationships, I scheduled my daily life around p, and I wired my brain to objectify women. I hope that removing p from my life can reverse some of the damage done to my views, and allow me to cultivate meaningful relationships that aren't solely based on physical attraction.
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Post by jh on Dec 7, 2005 5:30:11 GMT -5
TO ALL NEW MEMBERS WANTING TO POST HERE FOR THE FIRST TIME:
Rather than posting a reply to this thread, please start a new thread whereby you introduce yourself. By doing this I am almost certain that someone will reply specifically to your thread to greet you and maybe give some good advise for you specific situation.
I have noticed that some of the new members who posted their introduction message as a reply to this thread, never received a welcome reply and this could be why some only have a posts count of 1 (which tells me they left the board).
- jh
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Post by gohan7686 on Feb 27, 2006 22:07:28 GMT -5
Welcome everybody!
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Post by witness on Mar 21, 2006 8:16:09 GMT -5
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Post by johnny2x4 on Mar 25, 2006 6:26:30 GMT -5
I don't know if I need help, but i've noticed that my porn addictions are becoming more sick. My current gf knows I beat off to porn, Hentai for the most part, and I know she does as well. Is it wrong to share an interest like this? My tastes run a little darker than hers, so I don't know if it's possible to get worse. I have tried to stop, many many times, but I end up cheating on past girl friends, or having sex with strangers. Is there such a thing as "switching" from Promisciousity to Masturbation? If so, is it better? I've been told that it's ok by my therapist, and it will be hard for me to calm my sex drive becasue I am Bipolar rapid cycling. But now becasue of the cartoon smut ive seen it's been really hard for me to watch any cartoons. Real life porn has become less interesting to me, and I think that some of my past relationships have suffered because I didn'y really find them as attractive as some of the anime porn stars. What also makes it hard for me to even stop my sex drive is my want to make others feel happy, and I know I cross the line sometimes, but I can't stop myself once I know that the person I', "servicing" feels good. I read a book that talked about sex addiction but used it Satiricly, but it really made me wonder if I was a sex/porn addict.
I know I'm all over the place, but I really want to try and change my life. Can you help me?
Johnny_2x4
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Post by connguy on Mar 25, 2006 7:06:57 GMT -5
You need to want a healthy relationship and live in the real world and not escape. That would mean focusing on your girlfriend and never looking at porn period.My ex and i both looked at porn and thought it was healthy we both knew. It is not when you turn to it instead of each other.I lost her. You should start a thread on the regular board.You would get more responses to your situation and advice.
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Post by somebody on Mar 27, 2006 10:02:54 GMT -5
Awesome resources - Thanks to everyone.
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Post by shaw32 on Apr 2, 2006 13:56:36 GMT -5
Hello, I am brand new to this but i have a great wanting to break my patterns of porn add. Hope this helps me out. It will be good to read all this info.
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Post by pizzadude on Apr 4, 2006 19:34:41 GMT -5
Wow- a wealth of knowledge here. Thanks!
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