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Post by vaporlock on Nov 10, 2005 23:41:02 GMT -5
Not to be a jerk, but
"Isaiah"
Of course, I've no clue the books in the Book of Mormon.... so.....
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Post by aeria on Nov 10, 2005 23:52:47 GMT -5
I have a question for all of you: I'm addicted to the story and hentai side of pornography. Do I still need to talk to my bishop?
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Post by nurlond on Nov 11, 2005 1:11:16 GMT -5
I totally would if I were you, aeria. Spencer W. Kimball defined pornography as anything that arouses your sexual passions. Now, that doesn't mean everytime something turns you on you should run to the bishop's office, but anything that we indulge in for sexual reasons (outside of marriage, of course) should probably be discussed with your bishop. In addition, anything that is addictive is keeping us from serving God fully because we are serving our addiction. He could at least help you with it.
And one more thing, I have often heard that women often become addicted to the stories and the words. So I think that addiction can become just as much of a problem as mine of looking at images.
My thoughts, for what they are worth.
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Post by ladybug71 on Nov 11, 2005 11:55:18 GMT -5
Great question, aeria... I'll speak to the stories question. Not sure what Hentai is exactly, but I don't really want to go "find out just to help you." For me, stories have become as addictive as pictures/movies. I got hooked on them because it was less obvious to read a sex story at work then it was to look at sleezy pictures. (We addicts always find new and clever ways to hide what we're doing, don't we?) Ask yourself these questions: Do the stories present healthy views of human intimacy and sexuality? Are the people in the stories teaching you principles that are in accordance wth LDS teachings of the origin, potential, and worth of a soul? And most importantly: How are the stories making you feel? Why are you looking at them? What do you do after/while you look at them? Just because it isn't a "porn picture" doesn't mean it isn't filthy. It is really more about what you are getting from the material and what it is teaching/brainwashing you into believing. For some people (probably most male PAs on this board?), even a Victoria's Secret catalog would be out of bounds. If you happened upon a story once and read it and said "Oh my-that was probably not something I should do again" then I'd say maybe you don't need to talk to the Bishop. But if you continue going back again and again because the stories turn you on, I'd say you have a problem, and you probably want to talk to your Bishop to make sure he does not feel anything else needs to be done. He may be able to help, or point you to a resource that can help. Hope that helps... this is just my perspective as a recovering PA. Best wishes, lb
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Post by aeria on Nov 13, 2005 10:39:52 GMT -5
Thanks, guys. Deep down I think I already knew I had to, I was just avoiding the actual confrontation. But you've helped me tons. I see now that I do need to go see him (sigh). Best wishes to you both, Aeria
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Post by ladybug71 on Nov 13, 2005 15:24:46 GMT -5
Hopefully, you have a knowledgeable and compassionate Bishop, and your meeting won't be a "confrontation" so much as a step in your recovery and healing.
Best wishes Aeria, lb
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Post by riverdude on Nov 24, 2005 16:44:41 GMT -5
I'm graduating from byu in a few months and have struggled with SA for the six years (yeah, that's 6- I promise I'm graduating ) I've been here. I feel my addiction in part is connected with not wanting to be oppressed by others telling me what I have to do. Also, I fall into the category of growing up where there are few members and never falling into temptation, but when everyone is a member (here at the Y) I have a much harder time doing what I really believe and want to do because then I'm nobody special. I just was wondering if anyone else out there has come in contact with this problem or how they look at it. I feel that my biggest problem is that I'm not overcoming my problems by using all the resources I could because I'm too scared to get kicked out of byu, especially with only a few months left. I know what I want and I have progressed much, but I'd like to have all the support I can get to keep me going. Also, if any of you know how to get in contact with an LDS SA group I'd like to know. Your brother, rd
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Post by DoneWithIt on Nov 25, 2005 0:06:15 GMT -5
In response to riverdude I live in Provo near campus (student apartments, I go to UVSC) and there is an LDS SA group that meets in a chapel near UVSC every Wednesday night at 7:30. It's a really good group and has really helped me since I started going a month ago.
David - 30 Days Clean
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Post by riverdude on Nov 25, 2005 2:34:57 GMT -5
yeah, I'd love to go. What chapel is it in and can I just show up? rd
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Post by DoneWithIt on Nov 25, 2005 14:06:15 GMT -5
Here are directions from Provo: Take University Parkway into Orem (as if you were going to the University Mall), Turn right on State street Turn left on 800 South (if you turned right it would take you to Costco) The church is on the northwest corner of 800 South and 800 West. There are two church buildings in the parking lot and the meetings are in the north building. Go in the door on the east side that is farthest north and then go in the first door on your right. There is usually a sign on the door on the outside that says "LDS 12-step Meeting" or something to that effect. The meetings are at 7:30 every Wednesday night and all you have to do is show up. If you want to PM me your e-mail address, I'll e-mail you a Google Earth satellite picture that shows where it is with relation to UVSC.
David
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Post by nurlond on Nov 28, 2005 14:18:10 GMT -5
River dude,
I went through a semester of group therapy at the BYU Counseling Center in the basement of the Wilk. It was very helpful in my recovery. The ideas they taught me have stayed with me and been beneficial in maintaining any significant stretch of sobriety. I would call them and ask them how you can get set up with it. You can do one on one or group. Starting a group midsemester isn't a good idea, but in winter you could. I think you just fill out a form where you write what you are seeking counseling for, and they give it to an intake counselor who helps you find the right fit of group or individual counseling, or both. It's free for students.
Good luck to you!!
TA
PS-You're bishop may have info on how to get started as well.
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Post by woodstock310 on Nov 29, 2005 3:51:35 GMT -5
Hello. I am a member of the church. This blew my mind when I seen those three little letters LDS. I wasn't sure if I saw it right. I can't say that I have been very active. Hardly at all most of my life but lately I have managed to get to church more often. It's good to know that I am not as alone as I thought. Today was my first day sober. My mom is an alcholic and is finally 9 months sober. I hope that I can learn from her. Thank you
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Post by riverdude on Nov 29, 2005 4:48:05 GMT -5
good to have you here - and yes you're not at all alone. This is a great site and the people here are all wonderful. Take as much advantage of it as you can. your brother, rd
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Post by ladybug71 on Nov 29, 2005 13:30:09 GMT -5
Welcome aboard, riverdude! I'm glad you've started your recovery, and hope we can help you.
It isn't easy, but it IS possible!
Feel free to drop me a PM or post if you need help!
lb
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Post by Gewis on Nov 30, 2005 16:00:59 GMT -5
Woodstock, We're everywhere.
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