zaf
New Member
Posts: 18
|
Post by zaf on Feb 16, 2005 16:06:13 GMT -5
Guys, I really like that idea and I appreciate the board more and more. I want to join in the 100 days Goal, my last slip was on sunday february 13. My count start as of today wednesday feb 16--day 00. Goal: 100 days no P, no MB feb 16 ---- May 26
|
|
|
Post by little knight on Feb 16, 2005 21:37:10 GMT -5
I am bumping this beautiful thread so that I can help make some of the more negative threads disappear.
How is everyone coming with our pact? We have to really really want this in order for it to work. The best way is "ONE DAY AT A TIME".
Here is how I stay sober one day at a time. I wake up in the morning and take a shower. While I am in there I ask God to get me through THIS DAY. I ask Him to tell me the things I will have to watch out for if I am going to get through this day without acting out. What challenges will I face TODAY? What people will I be encountering today? What can I expect from my wife and loved ones today?
What should I do when I get home from work TODAY? What will my weaknesses be today? When will I have a chance to pray again TODAY?
Do this 100 times and we will meet our goal.
Still sober,
Knight
|
|
john
New Member
Posts: 40
|
Post by john on Feb 16, 2005 23:28:12 GMT -5
Wow ! Another day where I am happy to report that I made it !! Here where I live it already 12:15 Am ! So I am starting Day 06 !!
THANK GOD AGAIN ! You know …Whenever I com home I check this board and read new post and then that bring out the part of me that I like the most !! The man in the mirror part !
Today I found myself thinking about something I shouldn’t (for few seconds) and the good part was that …hum how should I put it ? usually fantaisie come with a change down there ! No change in that region today !! It was like it had no connection with my brain ! I am prefer to be on the look out and not assume that I am cure cause I am know I am not.
Did anyone confess to a priest about MB and P ? How so you even start ? Once I met a young priest. He was nice. He assume that to make me at ease it will be easier to talk about other things first. At the end when I was supposed to confess I could talk anymore cause it was like he knew me. Then he told me that I didn’t have to tell him everything ! And that telling your wife to you cheated for example wasn’t the best idea. Once you break that trust you may never get it back he said. Of course of the things he told me there is one that will help me a lot if I follow it. To not put yourself in the position where you will become weak. The example he gave me was for him to not put himself in a position where he may end up doing something with a girl. If yes how do they react ? Will they help you morally and not blame you ?
Wish we could confess by e-mail ! Although I am not sure that really what I want a e-mail that has all my life in it.
Ok have to head to bed ! All the best cause there will always , ALWAYS be tomorrow where the sun will shine on us with dream, faith , friendship and that we are not alone whatever happen !!
John Day 06
|
|
|
Post by river on Feb 17, 2005 2:47:05 GMT -5
Confession is very difficult. We are admitting to another human being all the dirty secrets, all the unsavory aspects of our lives that we try so hard to hide with our public persona. Luckily, according to our faith, that person has the authority to sacramentally absolve those sins.
I always confess sins related to my addiction first.... I've used P, I've had impure thougths, I've committed impure acts. If possible I try to give the number of times. However, if I'm coming off a bender of acting out the count is not really possible. You don't need to get into graphic detail, but at least in general terms you need to tell the priest everything to make a good confession. The sacrament is not only about the absolution of sin, but the priest is also acting as a soul doctor. You need to tell the doctor your symptoms so he can prescribe the right treatment.
That said I almost never go to confession at our own parish. Our diocese has one parish that offers the sacrament of reconciliation everyday, and they have the old style confessional booths with screens. That is easier for me since I'm not always brave enough to do the face to face confession.
The sacrament has helped me get stronger and keeps me fighting the good fight against my addiction. I try to go every 2 weeks or so. I find going frequently makes the process easier. Prior to last spring I hadn't gone to confession in 10 years.... that was extremely hard given my addiction and the terrible things I had done. Much easier to go frequently, and I only wish I didn't need to confess the same things over and over and over. Thats why I'm here on this board. Day 11 clean and day 11 since my last confession. I'm going to confession this Saturday and I'm praying I wont have to confess I've used P and I've committed impure acts this time. One day at a time.
God Bless, River
|
|
|
Post by Al on Feb 17, 2005 8:07:14 GMT -5
UPDATE. We're all done on May 27.
Be well, Al
Name____________Date____Free____Done_on a_day_at_a_time_14-Feb__3_______25-May Al______________6-Feb___11______17-May August_Hope_____10-Feb__7_______21-May Benny___________13-Feb__4_______24-May bottleneck______23-Jan__25______3-May Dilbert_________15-Feb__2_______26-May franklinlearned_________________ GYP_____________________ hopelesscase____________________ john____________11-Feb__6_______22-May Ken2____________25-Dec__54______4-Apr knight__________25-Jan__23______5-May Maddy___________4-Sep___166_____13-Dec Padraig_________11-Feb__6_______22-May pastlife________20-Jan__28______30-Apr Paulus__________13-Jan__35______23-Apr Pollito_________14-Feb__3_______25-May raj_____________16-Feb__1_______27-May River___________6-Feb___11______17-May Sawthelight_____________________ scuban1_________14-Feb__3_______25-May sherwood________28-Jan__20______8-May sjh57___________17-Nov__92______25-Feb stikint_________12-Feb__5_______23-May thepride724_____12-Feb__5_______23-May wolfy___________23-Jan__25______3-May zaf_____________14-Feb__3_______25-May
GROUP___________16-Feb__1_______27-May
|
|
|
Post by Padraig on Feb 17, 2005 8:15:56 GMT -5
Hi Al,
Thanks for updating. Looking at "The Big Board" really gives me encouragement. I literally got a rush of strength when I saw it a few moments ago. Seeing all the names, dates & commitments - I don't know exactly how to express it, but I think it is a great tool, aid, kick in the arse? to help me & the others who have committed. Being accountable to each other is a powerful thing. Power in numbers, both digits & people I reckon.
Thanks again & stay strong. Staying cool since 2-11-05 Padraig
|
|
|
Post by dilbert on Feb 17, 2005 9:13:43 GMT -5
Hi guys, Too late to jump on the band-wagon? I'd like to join the 100 days goal if that's OK. My sobriety date (the moment started counting from / been sober since is 14th feb 05 @ noon. This is quite good as I get to see one day end and another begin at lunchtime! Hope that doesn't break your spreadsheet Al! (You could put my date down as the 15th if it helps) Dilbert
|
|
|
Post by Al on Feb 17, 2005 9:19:23 GMT -5
Welcome aboard Dilbert.
I propose that we stop adding new members unless they can join us in progress, that is, they already have enough days sober that their addition wouldn't push back our group completion date.
Be well, Al
|
|
|
Post by Benny on Feb 17, 2005 9:25:17 GMT -5
I second that proposition Al.
Benny
|
|
|
Post by dilbert on Feb 17, 2005 9:57:36 GMT -5
Great!
97 days to go for me, then!
Dilbert
|
|
sjh57
Full Member
Let's win this fight!!
Posts: 195
|
Post by sjh57 on Feb 17, 2005 11:36:01 GMT -5
I'd like to join.
I've been free since 11/17/04
I guess that's around 91 days.
That should help raise the average.
sjh
|
|
|
Post by Al on Feb 17, 2005 11:57:48 GMT -5
I'd like to join. I've been free since 11/17/04 I guess that's around 91 days. That should help raise the average. sjh Done! I hadn't thought about computing an average. Right now the mean is about 23 days sobriety for the group. The median is 7 days. Be well, Al
|
|
|
Post by Sawthelight on Feb 17, 2005 14:45:02 GMT -5
Whoops! I thought the start date was not important, but I stand corrected.
So there will be no blanks next to my handle...
Stopped the last binge, January 27th. 100 days will be around May 1, I guess.
Working on Day 20 right now. Right in the kitchen for average days of sobriety.
Just a funny thought --- if this list grows to the thousands, there will likely be lots of available bandwidth on the 'net. Maybe my emails won't take so long....
|
|
|
Post by a day at a time on Feb 17, 2005 18:25:33 GMT -5
Dear Al & all,
I know that I’m not a hopeless case. I made it through 221 days sober. I relapsed on January 7th, 2005 & I can hardly describe how my integrity has been deteriorated. I enthusiastically signed to the 100 days “Final Cut” entirely ready, but the quality of my surrender missed the mark. I was home all by my self & when I’m left to my self I’m in very bad company, at least for now. I made that decision to relapse even though I knew that I would be deceiving you all as a group. I did not want to, but I did it any way. This is a terrible bottom to touch. It does not imply only my self but all of you. I read your accepted proposition not to let any body else in. I guess I’m out of the group to my own regret. Well…I deserve it. But my quest for sobriety is not over. I’m standing strong. Full of hope.
This reminds me that there are no mistakes save one, the failure to learn from a mistake.
I have to set guide lines for my sobriety:
Stay away from the computer when I’m alone, a day at a time for the first 100 days.
Turn off the computer after 10:30 pm, a day at a time for the first 100 days.
Stay away from the computer unless I have already taken a shower & taken care of essential things (house work, etc), a day at a time for the first 100 days.
Give priority to playing the guitar, a day at a time for the first 100 days.
Give priority to my wife & kids above everything else, a day at a time for the first 100 days.
Be extremely specific of the time that I will spend on the computer & what I’m going to do in it, a day at a time for the first 100 days.
As soon as I wake up, say hello to God (as I don’t understand it) & reaffirm my decisions to give my life & my will over to it, a day at a time for the first 100 days.
Reaffirm my absolute defeat over Porn, alcohol & drugs & ask God to concede me another day of sobriety, a day at a time for the first 100 days. (I have been clean & sober from alcohol & drugs for 9 years-November 16th 1995).
Stay away from slippery Porn Streets & be extremely careful if I happen to go to the Video Store, a day at a time for the first 100 days.
Write to this board, a day at a time for the first 100 days.
Pay my self 2 Euros, a day at a time for the first 100 days. (I have not bought an iPod because I want it to be a reward for my sobriety & I’m dying to get one)
Get things done, a day at a time for the first 100 days. (I’m convinced that the very root of this Porn addiction is procrastination. I’ve got tons of things to be taken care of)
Well. You can still consider me in. I fully commit to the group & the 100 days Final Cut (once again). I will stick to my guide lines in order to be strong & don’t let this incident happen again. When I say don’t let this incident happen again is because I can’t. You see addiction to porn has 3 facets. 1. This is when I was enjoying it & having a good time with it. 2. I started to think that I might have a problem. 3. I realised I have a problem, that I’m withering away, that I have lost my integrity, that I have lost interest in real life & its wonderful things & I keep doing it any way.
I have gone through this 3 stages & I want to recover my sanity. Help me.
|
|
|
Post by marillion on Feb 17, 2005 18:44:48 GMT -5
I will have to start my 100 days goal today. It is the reason I found this board....
But I will do it.
|
|