Over 1 year

[dougmo]

Hi folks. Just checking in. Oct 22 was one year P free. Some times were hard but it was well worth it. Thanks again for the help and talk in here. You all keep it up. You can all do it.

[DeepHealing]

Congratulations dougmo! What an accomplishment!

What would you say is the biggest positive consequence of this in your life?

[sandpaper]

Awesome. Thanks for sharing your victory.

Sandpaper

[dijit80]

Yeah we'd love to hear that!
And any helpful comments a year down the line.

[bananaman]

Congratulations, that is a great accomplishment. Any words of wisdom?

[dougmo]

The biggest positive result? I would say there are two.
First I don't feel like the hypocrite that I was for so long. I am a Christian man, leader in my church and had a terrible secret. I no longer feel like two different men.
Second i feel much closer to my wife. God blessed me with an increadible wife. P gave me such a screwed up view of what was normal sex that I was unhappy sexually. Since then I have recognized the effects of the P and found out that I was to blame and not my wife. Since taking the responsibility on myself I have a much happier sex life.
How did I do it?
I relied on Jesus for one. A lot of Prayer and a lot of Bible study. Thank you Jesus for deliverance
But also God showed me something very important early on that I feel was the most helpful. nature abhores a vaccume. You can't just not view P. You have to replace viewing P with another activity. Find something positive to do to replace the time you usually used to view P.
This goes for anything really. You can't lose weight by focusing on not eating. You have to move towards eating healthy and working out as your focus. You can't quite using P by deciding not to. You to focus your attention on some healthy activity.
I hope this helps. Find that thing. It could be walking around walmart, writing the next great novel, tons of Bible study, or any combination of anything healthy that keeps you clean.
God Bless ya'll

[manonmission]

I really identify with the "hypocrite" feelings. The duallity...all of it (I'm a minister). It's so great to see someone do what at times deems almost impossible. Thanks for the inspiration.

[pointfive]

That's really awesome you got one year without P. I too can relate to the "hypocrite" feelings when looking at P. I'm a sober member of AA and we're supposed to be free from ALL addictions and I've been doing this internet P thing for seven years and I have 12 years in the AA program. I want to live an honest life and I want to look the world in the eye and to be a man free from all addictions. I really have to have God in my life in order to get thru this and I'm grateful to have this board. So far I have one day without P.

[wombat]

1 year,,,,All I can say is WOW....wtg , a great accomplishment indeed

As someone starting off on this journey , you are an inspiration

[liz]

Congrats!!!!!! Very admirable.

Glad to see someone think it's worth it.

[DeepHealing]

dougmo said:

The biggest positive result? I would say there are two.
First I don't feel like the hypocrite that I was for so long. I am a Christian man, leader in my church and had a terrible secret. I no longer feel like two different men.
Second i feel much closer to my wife. God blessed me with an increadible wife. P gave me such a screwed up view of what was normal sex that I was unhappy sexually. Since then I have recognized the effects of the P and found out that I was to blame and not my wife. Since taking the responsibility on myself I have a much happier sex life.

It is really inspiring to see what can change in one short year through this recovery process. Many thanks for sharing this with us.