Post by Karahma123 on Dec 19, 2007 11:38:29 GMT -5
I've been posting recently, but a little background. My husband cheated on me with a stripper 4 years ago, right before our wedding. He told me about it months later, including letting me know about his porn addiction, acting out with one of my bridesmaids, having fantasies about my girlfriends, etc. Anyways, he went to counseling for a while but then declared himself cured. Around a year later he disclosed he had slipped up to me, after I was in the hospital (I have a chronic illness). Then he claimed he was completely fine for the past two years.
I've confronted him on this issue countless, countless times. All of this time he has told me he is better now that it was a gradual and hard process, but he was better.
Then I was recently in the hospital again. I guess he feels even more guilty when this happens and he finally told me the "truth" of the past.
Basically, he's never STOPPED watching p*. From watching it on our computer, to going out and purchasing DVDs, from recently going on our internet and watching it while our baby was asleep in the room. I've noticed that he gets up early for work sometimes, well it's usually to go downstairs, either watch p* or m*.
He swears he's telling the truth, the whole truth, but he's lied to me so much in the past few days, years, months, it's unreal. I can't believe a word this man says.
Now, you tell me if this isn't a "red flag" for even more bizarre behaivor. Recently my husband made a group of friends that he goes out with fairly often. Until I put a stop to it, it was often until 2-3am. I googled the email address of the guy whose house he's always going over to and it came up with posts to tons of weird and twisted p* forums. I've never met this group of guys and it's just bizarre for my husband, a man very active in our church, to be meeting with them, in my opinion.
Anyways, it's all numb again, I feel our life is a lie. I don't think people understand, it's not necessarily the p*, or the fact that I hate myself and my body, or how i can't go out with my husband without him checking out other women in front of me, or how he won't even look at me during s* anymore, it's all the lies. I'm so disgusted this man has looked me in the eye and bold faced lied to me for years.
Makes me wonder what else he's lied about. I have to decide if I want to stay or not.
I'm not sure.
I've confronted him on this issue countless, countless times. All of this time he has told me he is better now that it was a gradual and hard process, but he was better.
Then I was recently in the hospital again. I guess he feels even more guilty when this happens and he finally told me the "truth" of the past.
Basically, he's never STOPPED watching p*. From watching it on our computer, to going out and purchasing DVDs, from recently going on our internet and watching it while our baby was asleep in the room. I've noticed that he gets up early for work sometimes, well it's usually to go downstairs, either watch p* or m*.
He swears he's telling the truth, the whole truth, but he's lied to me so much in the past few days, years, months, it's unreal. I can't believe a word this man says.
Now, you tell me if this isn't a "red flag" for even more bizarre behaivor. Recently my husband made a group of friends that he goes out with fairly often. Until I put a stop to it, it was often until 2-3am. I googled the email address of the guy whose house he's always going over to and it came up with posts to tons of weird and twisted p* forums. I've never met this group of guys and it's just bizarre for my husband, a man very active in our church, to be meeting with them, in my opinion.
Anyways, it's all numb again, I feel our life is a lie. I don't think people understand, it's not necessarily the p*, or the fact that I hate myself and my body, or how i can't go out with my husband without him checking out other women in front of me, or how he won't even look at me during s* anymore, it's all the lies. I'm so disgusted this man has looked me in the eye and bold faced lied to me for years.
Makes me wonder what else he's lied about. I have to decide if I want to stay or not.
I'm not sure.