Post by sillyrabbit on Dec 18, 2007 16:20:30 GMT -5
As all of you may know I have become pretty down. So far down that I have intentionally cut myself to relieve the pain. Something I am not proud of.
Anyways, I have picked up drinking. Basically every night. Its really the only thing that makes me happy. (that is when my BF doesnt get on my nerves and I blow up into an angry arguments, or, self loathing sobbing/blaming him for everything that has made me the way I am today)
Anyways, the night that I had my "accident" I can pretty much recall most of it.
However, the next day I woke up interrible pain. All my muscles aching. My legs, butt, etc.... maybe a coincidence but same kind of muscles that generally hurt after being intimate.
I know nothing happend, at least I am about 98% sure nothing did.....but I couldnt help but have a terrible dream the next night.
[trigger]Regarding my bf drugging me up and molesting me while under the influence... it was a terrible nightmare... the lack of emotional response or caring he had for me in my dream.. was so real.. and sadly one of my worst REAL fears about how much he does or doesnt care about me.
The dream ended with me packing my bags and telling him to go F* himself.. and a great sense of relief to be done with him.... with the PROOF that leaving was the best I could do.. considering the (in dream) truth of his actions was revealed. [/trigger]
Anyways the next night came, and, I hadnt drank that much.
I fell asleep (as always) before my bf. I woke up abruptly to this....
[trigger]I was asleep on my side facing away from him. when we first fell asleep we weren't cuddling or anything... I woke up to his hand on my hip going under my clothing to my skin.. and kinda hiking it down a bit...... I woke up angry, and, yelled at him. Called him a F* pig, and a bunch of other things... to which he got super angry about and yelled back that he just wanted to cuddle with me.
I said to him as I have always said.. since choosing not to be intimate with him..... "you're just cuddling me for yourself.. cause you're horny... I said it not about US.. its only about YOU! "
I dont think he understands this concept at all.
[/trigger]
Now this is where I am stumped.
Was I in the middle of being part drunk/asleep so I misread his intentions? (in the past he has behaved in a similar fashion for us to be "close" in this way while cuddling.
Or was he trying what to take advantage of my (what he assumed) "drunken state" and asleep.
This is where I am remembering my terrible dream.. and then having him do this.... plus all the emotions of dealing with a PA...and on top of all that... when I was younger.. my step father molested me when I was a child... and WHILE I WAS ASLEEP!
So.... did I over re-act?
Was he being..... shady?
The next day he was still mad at me.... (although he went to the trouble of making me some food I really like...hmmm.....)
you know.. come to think of it.. he never actually says he is sorry for anything.
Just starts acting all "cute" or something.. or doing things/favors or ignores it completely.
His "anger" about how he just wants to be able to "touch his GF" or just be able to "cuddle me" subsided when I told him that half the reason I was so angry was how his behavior was very similar to what my step father had done. (he knows the story)
I know how bad this could seem.
I am trying to give the benefit of the doubt here....
I dont want to become this kind of person that always assumes the worst.
Sorry if this post is long.. or with mistakes.. I'm trying to rush.
I forgot to mention.... that because I woke up while he was attempting to "cuddle" me.. I cant help but think he is doing this more then once... while I really am drunk and passed out.. asleep.... not knowing.. and he is still awake... waiting untill I have fallen asleep.
Its just so creepy. Too creepy.
Anyways, I have picked up drinking. Basically every night. Its really the only thing that makes me happy. (that is when my BF doesnt get on my nerves and I blow up into an angry arguments, or, self loathing sobbing/blaming him for everything that has made me the way I am today)
Anyways, the night that I had my "accident" I can pretty much recall most of it.
However, the next day I woke up interrible pain. All my muscles aching. My legs, butt, etc.... maybe a coincidence but same kind of muscles that generally hurt after being intimate.
I know nothing happend, at least I am about 98% sure nothing did.....but I couldnt help but have a terrible dream the next night.
[trigger]Regarding my bf drugging me up and molesting me while under the influence... it was a terrible nightmare... the lack of emotional response or caring he had for me in my dream.. was so real.. and sadly one of my worst REAL fears about how much he does or doesnt care about me.
The dream ended with me packing my bags and telling him to go F* himself.. and a great sense of relief to be done with him.... with the PROOF that leaving was the best I could do.. considering the (in dream) truth of his actions was revealed. [/trigger]
Anyways the next night came, and, I hadnt drank that much.
I fell asleep (as always) before my bf. I woke up abruptly to this....
[trigger]I was asleep on my side facing away from him. when we first fell asleep we weren't cuddling or anything... I woke up to his hand on my hip going under my clothing to my skin.. and kinda hiking it down a bit...... I woke up angry, and, yelled at him. Called him a F* pig, and a bunch of other things... to which he got super angry about and yelled back that he just wanted to cuddle with me.
I said to him as I have always said.. since choosing not to be intimate with him..... "you're just cuddling me for yourself.. cause you're horny... I said it not about US.. its only about YOU! "
I dont think he understands this concept at all.
[/trigger]
Now this is where I am stumped.
Was I in the middle of being part drunk/asleep so I misread his intentions? (in the past he has behaved in a similar fashion for us to be "close" in this way while cuddling.
Or was he trying what to take advantage of my (what he assumed) "drunken state" and asleep.
This is where I am remembering my terrible dream.. and then having him do this.... plus all the emotions of dealing with a PA...and on top of all that... when I was younger.. my step father molested me when I was a child... and WHILE I WAS ASLEEP!
So.... did I over re-act?
Was he being..... shady?
The next day he was still mad at me.... (although he went to the trouble of making me some food I really like...hmmm.....)
you know.. come to think of it.. he never actually says he is sorry for anything.
Just starts acting all "cute" or something.. or doing things/favors or ignores it completely.
His "anger" about how he just wants to be able to "touch his GF" or just be able to "cuddle me" subsided when I told him that half the reason I was so angry was how his behavior was very similar to what my step father had done. (he knows the story)
I know how bad this could seem.
I am trying to give the benefit of the doubt here....
I dont want to become this kind of person that always assumes the worst.
Sorry if this post is long.. or with mistakes.. I'm trying to rush.
I forgot to mention.... that because I woke up while he was attempting to "cuddle" me.. I cant help but think he is doing this more then once... while I really am drunk and passed out.. asleep.... not knowing.. and he is still awake... waiting untill I have fallen asleep.
Its just so creepy. Too creepy.