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Dec 11, 2007 22:41:26 GMT -5
Post by saddkatt on Dec 11, 2007 22:41:26 GMT -5
So I had a bit of a situation recently at work. I teach junior high in an alternative school. My students all have behavior issues. So yeah, sometimes they do infuriating things. Usually it rolls off me like water on a duck because, well, crazy kids do crazy things. That's just how it is.
But this one really got to me. I have a student, C. C stole one of his dad's porno mags and brought it to school with him. The bus monitor busted him, and he was written up. C was angry about getting in trouble, and was acting out in class. I brought him to the assistant principal. She laid it on the line about his inappropriate behavior, and his response--honestly, I'm still raging--was to tell both of us that we were just jealous that we weren't hot enough to qualify being in the magazine, and that's why we were picking on him.
...um, what?
Rationally, I know that this mean sexist behavior is the result of both his behavior disorder and the sexist conditioning he received from his father. The AP called his dad. I know that the kid was going to be in deep doo when he got home, not only for stealing from dad, but for what he stole, and now school officials know what dad does in his spare time...
Ooh, I was hot. Seeing red, blinding rage kind of hot. This little 13 year old pornified fart sat there and judged me and my boss based on pornified attitudes he learned from his pornified father. I have been in meetings with dad, and that sexist goof is definitely where C learned it from.
Maybe I guess my real attributes don't matter. I guess it doesn't matter that I have multiple degrees, that I can speak four languages, that I am intelligent and erudite and witty and talented. This kid sized me up and found me inadequate. I bet his dad sized me up and found me inadequate at the IEP meetings.
This is how men think, and what men teach their sons. I'm disgusted.
And, of course, it was privately a terrible trigger for me. I know what my guy does when I'm not home, and I look in the mirror at my 5'3", flat-chested, mousy-haired self and see the embodiment of inadequate. He tells me that I'm attractive and desirable, but then he does the p thing and my whole soul just screams "not good enough!" And I can sit there and chant "it's not about me, it's not about me" but that little voice just keeps nagging at me. And to have that little snot poke me right in my insecurities was just too much.
Is this how it really is? Does every man judge women merely on their appearance and either dismiss them as being inadequate or use them as momentary p fodder and then discard them? Has our society become so pornified that women have ceased to exist as individuals?
Ugh.
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Dec 11, 2007 23:29:24 GMT -5
Post by truthorlie on Dec 11, 2007 23:29:24 GMT -5
Imagine the struggle when you come to realize that your own son is starting to resemble his pornified sexualizing father. It is an internal battle that I hope nobody on this board EVER has to go through. I still don't know how I am going to help my son - he may choose that he doesn't want help at all. And as a child, he doesn't physically have the capability to make that choice as teenagers don't have a fully matured brain to process this type of difficulty. They manage the best they can and may make horrific choices that inevitably may impact their futures (and the futures of the people that come into their lives) in way, well... I will just say, I can see how the cycle can sometimes continue.
Am I strong enough to save my son? He is a child and I am an adult. But I could not save his father? What makes me think I can save him? Can we EVER save anyone but ourselves?
So much pain and hopelessness and destruction a little porn can cause.... "It's just a picture, right? Everybody does it right? I'm not hurting anyone, right?"
I would challenge the addicts on this board to deny that everytime they sneak a peek or spend countless hours using, that THEY aren't destroying my son and children just like him. Addicts, would you like my son's email address so that you can email him your favorite porn links? Come on, all men do it, right? Why should he suffer going without when you and the others have so much to give him, so much to teach him. How not to get caught. How to deny. How to lie and cover up. The best free sites, the hottest (expletive)es, the most exciting erotic pages? He will be 18 in just over 2 years. Which one of you will find yourself unknowingly sitting next to him in some strip club? Which one of your sons will be his strip club buddy to go sexualize the women and maybe get some happy endings in the process? Hey, if they go together they will feel less guilty going there by themselves, right?
Nah, porn doesn't destroy people - its harmless.....
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Dec 12, 2007 0:08:30 GMT -5
Post by saddkatt on Dec 12, 2007 0:08:30 GMT -5
Nah, we don't live in the real world at all. We are trapped in an alternate universe of airbrushes, photoshop, boob jobs, liposuction, tummy tucks, brazilian waxes, hair extensions, and dye jobs.
I sometimes wonder how I would look if someone totally airbrushed and photoshopped me...made the boobs bigger and the thighs smaller and made my head...well, pretty, I guess. But then, of course, I'd still be judged by my outer appearance.
How is it that all these men do porn basically as a reaction to deep-rooted insecurities...and that it's the women that end up feeling insecure? That's a pretty good trick, I think.
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Dec 12, 2007 0:57:07 GMT -5
Post by completelydone on Dec 12, 2007 0:57:07 GMT -5
Disturbing isn't it? It's unbelievable to me that when you are a woman your worth is measured in a millisecond based upon how closely you resemble porn whores, celebs, or whatever.
First of all, we are not our bodies.
Secondly, 1 in 10,000 people look Hollywood perfect, and the ones who do have probably had plastic surgery too, so what they are measuring us up against is impossible standards to begin with.
Third, if they are that shallow, they don't have the brains God gave cow. (And believe me when I say cow's don't have any.)
So, yes, he measured you up in a millisecond based upon unrealistic expectations, aside from the fact of who you are (your character and personality), aside from your intelligence, education, gifts, and talents. What's new? When you're a woman, that's the b.s. we get all the time. We're not people, we're meat. But, don't allow men's judgments to matter to you. They aren't important or significant in any way when they treat other human beings as if they were c*m receptacles. It's disgusting, evil, vile, and nasty. THEY ARE THE ONE'S WHO AREN'T ENOUGH! THEY ARE THE ONE'S WHO DON'T MEASURE UP AND WHO HAVE NO WORTH, SO LONG AS THEY CONTINUE DOWN THEIR IGNORAMUS ROAD OF FILTHY, UNCONTROLLED, GREEDY, SEXUAL BARBARISM.
Don't give those kind of people's judgment a second thought. They're not worth it.
Oh, and BTW, it isn't about your looks. I don't know what you look like but many porn addicts marry beautiful women, and they still use the crap. So, this is really NOT about you. It's about some sort of twisted entitlement within them that they feel like they deserve all the women in the world. They're gross and perverted thinking should not be given any weight.
Take care, CD
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Dec 12, 2007 9:49:07 GMT -5
Post by spittingnails on Dec 12, 2007 9:49:07 GMT -5
Nah, we don't live in the real world at all. We are trapped in an alternate universe of airbrushes, photoshop, boob jobs, liposuction, tummy tucks, brazilian waxes, hair extensions, and dye jobs. The most unsettling thing for me is that this is becoming reality. This fake, crazy male fantasy is becoming our reality and is what we are ALL judged by. How about the pretty woman who's obviously an idiot because of the looks? P has had such a huge impact, as we all know, and as more and more men get hooked on this stuff, these become the new standards we are held to. If something isn't done soon, as messed up and insane as it is, this WILL be the real world.
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Dec 12, 2007 10:24:00 GMT -5
Post by kello2005 on Dec 12, 2007 10:24:00 GMT -5
sad, my sister in law teaches at a highschool that is nicknamed HeroinHeights....needless to say she deals with some really poorly behaved kids. She even said that if she calls a parent, on some occasions they'll just say "well, if he's being bad a school punish him there, not my business"!!!! what? Either way, just wanted to let you know you're doing a great thing working with those kids:)
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Dec 12, 2007 14:13:51 GMT -5
Post by hugs4u002 on Dec 12, 2007 14:13:51 GMT -5
I dropped out of the teaching program as a senior after spending a semester at my local high school student teaching in the computer lab...the boys spent most of their time looking up women on the internet and the teacher barely seemed to care when I pointed out to her what they were doing. I commend you for not only doing this job but also taking a very unpopular stand against porn.
I also recently found out my 22 year old son spent some of my hard earned money that I had given him out of the kindness of my heart to go to a t***y bar. He knows how I feel about this kind of place and I was so mad that I told him I would never give him another penny of my money.
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Dec 12, 2007 16:44:45 GMT -5
Post by zerotolerance on Dec 12, 2007 16:44:45 GMT -5
I think it shows how SHALLOW they are, and is not a reflection on us whatsever. You are smarter, wiser, more whole, and have far more going on than they ever will. It doesn't ever get any uglier than a phead spewing pheaded doo doo. The ugliness is not you, it's them. And p whs aren't any prettier than we are in REALITY!!!! We'd look just like them, if we had a airbrusher, and a plastic surgeon, following us around, creating a FANTASY view too. But thankfully, we're smart enought not to want to do that anymore. And smart enough to seek love, and truth, and reality, rather than wasting our lives in fantasyland. Just let their doo spew roll of you. Or nicely give em a big dose of reality with a pleasant smile on your face. At the end of the day, we know who the REAL winners are, and it's not the pimps, nor their p whs, nor the pornsturbators who participate, and encourage such mindless, souless, heartless, stupidity.
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Dec 12, 2007 16:58:11 GMT -5
Post by zerotolerance on Dec 12, 2007 16:58:11 GMT -5
And the jealousy lines are all THEIR projections about THEMSELVES. They are jealous of every single woman on earth, because they have such a warped idea of what women are really like. If we aren't jealous of the other women, then they say we have p-n!$ envy. BS!!! We know we aren't jealous of those girls, nor their misused man PARTS. All that jealousy spew is just a projection of vag!n@ envy imo. They don't treat their "precious, perfect etc..." p g/f's any better than they treat us. They treat all women like crap because they are full of ONLY CRAP, esp when they are operating from their p culture mentalities. They are jealous because in their mind you can just to out and get some, while they settle for paper dolls. They operate under the false assumption that going out and picking up strangers for non intimate sex is a good thing so they are JEALOUS of ALL women imo. There is only room for imagining two types of women in pheads mind. 1. is the p wh, and the 2. is the prude. They don't have the comprehension to realize that we are unique individuals, and not objectified projections.
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Dec 12, 2007 17:51:50 GMT -5
Post by ellen38 on Dec 12, 2007 17:51:50 GMT -5
saddkatt, I sympathize, I am like you (only slightly less intelligent, but slightly taller!). I think even if you did have double dd's, the "pornified fart" and his father still would not listen. If anything they would have even more trouble hearing your message that they are wrong in their thinking. The p-industry spends so much time and money telling everyone that it is acceptable but it isn't. I understand how you feel, but please try to remember what you have is genuine. You can't fake that! ellen
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Dec 12, 2007 19:15:01 GMT -5
Post by completelydone on Dec 12, 2007 19:15:01 GMT -5
They think they know all about women, and they don't know the first thing about us because they base what they "know" on porn, what other men who use porn say about women, and what porn whores pretend women are to give men their superiority "fix". They can't possibly be basing what they believe about women on what they've learned in the real world, because they don't live in the real world. They live in a world where the women are ready, hot, and horny for any ugly old hairy slob that ogles at them. Then they go out and ogle women expecting to get the same result as they see in the movies. IT'S NOT REAL FELLAS... IT'S CALLED FANTASY FOR A REASON. GET A GRIP. I mean, I think it is ridiculous, immature, and moronic to believe that if they cat call at me that I'm going to drop my pants and give it up. How stupid is that, yet I think that's what they are hoping for when they do that? Or the guy at work that told me he thinks they should establish a no shirt policy..... did he ACTUALLY THINK I would rip my shirt off and show him my boobies? Did he think I'd be like....... 'OH yeah baby, come over here and let me show you what a real woman looks like?' Or maybe that I would want to go roll around in the grease pits with him and get REAL dirty? Or maybe I would ask to see his weenie and give him a good s*ck job? No, they don't know crap about women. All they know is porn and they are waiting for the day that some dumb video they've seen will become reality in their lives... and they think they will get it by acting like the idiot men in porn do with their stupid come on lines, dirty talk, and greazy lusty looks. PUKE...............
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