Post by mo4wo1 on Dec 11, 2007 12:46:54 GMT -5
H & I were on a date Saturday night. I had a serious brain-fart & made a gasp at a record cover I saw at the book store we were at. He asked why I gasped & without one seconds thought, I pointed to it.
[trigger] It was a pic of his preferred type of woman naked & covered in what was supposed to be whip-cream.[/trigger]
With that, H then got upset and didn't express it. He knew he should have spoken up but chose not to. He didn't. Instead, he chose to manipulate us around the movies and back to the records so he could view it again.
I caught him & it ruined our date. It ruined my weekend. And left me full of doubts all day Sunday as to why he was being so danged "understanding" and "helpful" while I was stuck in bed. (My back went out on me so I stayed in bed in pain doped up all day.)
And then last night I opened a screen that had a video I was listening to playing. The video was just a bunch of pictures someone threw together that related to words in the song. But one of the pics was a P pic & I didn't realize it. I usually just close the screen & just listen to the music.
So, here. I am mad that 2 times I have shown him P! If H slips, it will ultimately be his responsibility but I can't help but worry about the fact that I just made his struggle more diffcult... that I tempted him.
If he falls, I will feel crushed and guilty even though I know better.
I mean, and I said this to him Sat. night, I have only recently learned of just what we're dealing with (an actual addiction & not just "My H is a selfish jerk!") as of June or July 2007. So, it's not second nature to me yet for me to sensor so many thing about my behaviors. And yet it's his responsibility & his addiction, not my work to do for him. And as life is, he will see things inadvertently. P is everywhere... literally.
It's not like this is cocaine & I accidentally sat some in front of a coke addict. I mean, if I want to stay away from coke, I just do. I don't have to be careful what I watch on TV to not have coke in my home, what grocery store I go to to not have coke on the aisles & counters, what mags & sites I read to not open up to the free coke samples.
It's insane!
It's everywhere & he has to learn. But to point it out doesn't help any, even if I didn't mean to.
I hate this! I hate dealing with this (expletive)!
[trigger] It was a pic of his preferred type of woman naked & covered in what was supposed to be whip-cream.[/trigger]
With that, H then got upset and didn't express it. He knew he should have spoken up but chose not to. He didn't. Instead, he chose to manipulate us around the movies and back to the records so he could view it again.
I caught him & it ruined our date. It ruined my weekend. And left me full of doubts all day Sunday as to why he was being so danged "understanding" and "helpful" while I was stuck in bed. (My back went out on me so I stayed in bed in pain doped up all day.)
And then last night I opened a screen that had a video I was listening to playing. The video was just a bunch of pictures someone threw together that related to words in the song. But one of the pics was a P pic & I didn't realize it. I usually just close the screen & just listen to the music.
So, here. I am mad that 2 times I have shown him P! If H slips, it will ultimately be his responsibility but I can't help but worry about the fact that I just made his struggle more diffcult... that I tempted him.
If he falls, I will feel crushed and guilty even though I know better.
I mean, and I said this to him Sat. night, I have only recently learned of just what we're dealing with (an actual addiction & not just "My H is a selfish jerk!") as of June or July 2007. So, it's not second nature to me yet for me to sensor so many thing about my behaviors. And yet it's his responsibility & his addiction, not my work to do for him. And as life is, he will see things inadvertently. P is everywhere... literally.
It's not like this is cocaine & I accidentally sat some in front of a coke addict. I mean, if I want to stay away from coke, I just do. I don't have to be careful what I watch on TV to not have coke in my home, what grocery store I go to to not have coke on the aisles & counters, what mags & sites I read to not open up to the free coke samples.
It's insane!
It's everywhere & he has to learn. But to point it out doesn't help any, even if I didn't mean to.
I hate this! I hate dealing with this (expletive)!