Post by kazzie on Dec 10, 2007 5:09:12 GMT -5
How should I treat this problem, I think at some time or other most men will suffer the loss of an ere----n, even during the act. Mine has and I did notice this quite a few years ago off and on, it wouldn't always happen, but on occasion it did and you put it down to being tired or stressed, I don't know if he was p--ing and m/b then or did the disapointment lead him to that, the reason I do not know this is because he has never told me.
Last week-end it happened and he finished himself with me there of course, he said it was because he was tired, I did not make an issue of it. This week-end also the same thing happened, but he was determined to get the job done and he did ,but I noticed it was a stuggle for him, and he had to have a bit of a break before continuing, he said this time was because he was in pain from his back problem, which he does have and sometimes is agony for him. I am worried, now I have learn't from this board that they condition themselves to their hand, and we have struggled with this because at one point he could not get intimate with me, but we continued and progressed to the stage where he could. Now this is happening, and I don't want to cause a fuss or make him feel like a failure, but when we went for our one and only counselling session she suggested that he try Ciallis, now I thought that a strange thing to suggest to a SA, I asked her about it and she said she thought it would be a good idea to give him more confidence with me, what do you all think, is it a good idea. Would you bring the subject up with him, I just feel that if I do ignore it, he will go back to doing m/b because it is easier for him with no pain, I don't want to make things go backwards, please bear in mind that he fantasises, and objectifies other women. We are going on vacation shortly for 3 weeks so if he was going to try Ciallis that would be a good time to try it.
Last week-end it happened and he finished himself with me there of course, he said it was because he was tired, I did not make an issue of it. This week-end also the same thing happened, but he was determined to get the job done and he did ,but I noticed it was a stuggle for him, and he had to have a bit of a break before continuing, he said this time was because he was in pain from his back problem, which he does have and sometimes is agony for him. I am worried, now I have learn't from this board that they condition themselves to their hand, and we have struggled with this because at one point he could not get intimate with me, but we continued and progressed to the stage where he could. Now this is happening, and I don't want to cause a fuss or make him feel like a failure, but when we went for our one and only counselling session she suggested that he try Ciallis, now I thought that a strange thing to suggest to a SA, I asked her about it and she said she thought it would be a good idea to give him more confidence with me, what do you all think, is it a good idea. Would you bring the subject up with him, I just feel that if I do ignore it, he will go back to doing m/b because it is easier for him with no pain, I don't want to make things go backwards, please bear in mind that he fantasises, and objectifies other women. We are going on vacation shortly for 3 weeks so if he was going to try Ciallis that would be a good time to try it.