Post by truthorlie on Dec 9, 2007 21:49:16 GMT -5
I agree with dazed about the threat of physical harm. I can't remember specifically if any other SO on this board met with physical harm when confronting her SA/PA but mine DID hurt me. I got fed up one day and told him I was going to remove the computer (his work computer) from the house, that he could take it back to work THAT DAY (sunday) and when I reached for it he attacked me - I think to defend his porn. He ran straight for me, grabbed me and picked me up like a wrestler would pick up their foe and proceeded to body slam me into the floor cracking my hip and completely breaking one of my ribs in two pieces with his shoulder. I went into an emotional shock I think. I didn't know what to do. I could hardly move, the pain was so great (I still remember all of this to this day.) He said a couple of expletives to me and when I didn't get up, I think he got scared. He started saying how sorry he was. I did say something about maybe we need to call an ambulance - I wasn't sure how hurt I was. He discouraged this (obviously) and after several minutes he helped me get up off of the floor and onto a chaise lounge we had in the living room where all of this happened. I went to the Urgent Care Center on Tuesday (2 days later) because I was pretty sure that my rib was broken. I could feel the ends scraping together and it hurt like hell! They x-ray'd me (hip, abdomen, ribcage, etc) and asked me what had happened. I told them that I had fallen off of a ladder outdoors. I lied. I was scared. I could overhear the nurses talking with the doctor later. They were discussing how they suspected that I was lying but they felt they couldn't do anything about it. I left Urgent care knowing that my H had indeed hurt me very badly. I called him at work to tell him what he had done. He said it was my fault. That was the beginning of the end. The unfortunate part is the end took soooo long to get to. With a lot of hope on my part that he would "see the light" and a lot of lies and broken promises on his part. Be careful. My H started off in the early years with plenty of sarcastic disrepect that turned to emotional abuse, blame shifting and gaslighting. But he was also able to turn on a dime and start the physical abuse without remorse. He never did admit to anyone that he hurt me like that. He would just stand there and let me tell the neighbor or the friend how I got hurt falling off of the ladder and then say something like, "She just needs to be more careful, doesn't she." I wish I could say that was the last of the physical abuse, but it wasn't. It was just the beginning. And he added sexual abuse later.
Be careful. (((( Hugs ))))
Be careful. (((( Hugs ))))