Update on Rachel and s#X issues

[megan11]

Ok, so i am happy to report that Rachel was NOT the special of the week somewhere. It was a $1 charge from our gas station, till the put through the amount of gas we got. Rachel is the owner of the gas station. The $1 was removed then we were charge the full amount by sunoco. I am glad that this has been cleaned up.
Well, i too have been feeling alot like some others here as far as having S#X with H. I have been feeling left out or maybe it was just my imagination? So, i needed to feel better about our loving together so last night i changed it up a bit. To a PA i think this may be very cruel if he is thinking about someone else besides me in bed, but i had to do it for me.
I made H say my name about 5 times while we were together. Now i am not too sure where to go with it though because the night before when we were together it was good and no problems. Well last night with me having him say my name, it was hard to for him to release. Very hard to where he would almost and then not. Finally he did but i am having issues thinking it was because of my name that was involved.
He claimed that he is afraiad cause at times he felt almost numb in that area and he couldnt release, he is scared its the prozac kicking in, i am scared its because of my name.
I thought it was a good tactic at the time to keep him with me if he wasnt but now i wonder if i have opened up another can of worms? I guess only time will tell....

[zerotolerance]

Nah, you didn't open up a can of worms. There was already an open can present, ya know. I think it was probably a good idea. lol! I think making em look into our eyes during sex is a good idea too. Only he knows, what he normally thinks about while having sex, or getting release, and if it wasn't already YOU, then it should have been. You're just making sure. The only way I could see this messing him up, would be if he normally doesn't think about you. Like if he normally thinks p-ish thoughts. And if that's the case, he shouldn't be having sex with you anyway. ya know! It is pretty funny though. lol!!! We are sooooo creative, aren't we? You are soo funny, but I can sooo relate. You could retrain him to scream your name everytime! lol!!!! No more, YEAH BABY, make it be YEAH Megan from now on. rofl.

I'm soo glad the charge was from the gas station. WHEW!!!! And I'm glad you got to the bottom of it. That's the key. Just get to the bottom of it, to the truth, preferably BEFORE, letting our imaginations run amok.

[megan11]

LOL ZT, i was thinking the saaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaame thing. Everytime it needs to be YEAH Megan otherwise i just wont be able to "do it".
I remember everything you say ZT, it sticks to me just like all he has done to me and I will not let him MB into me.

[spittingnails]

megan11 said:

I will not let him MB into me.

EEEWWWW! But SO true! I've never thought of it like this but it's exactly what they do! The hard part for me is going to be not blurting that out to my h! lol

[zerotolerance]

[trigger]Yeah, that's gross, but it's even grosser when they start thinking mb ON us is the way, like my h did. And if he is going numb, the number 1 cause of that is over mb-ng imo. My h's equipment won't work without either p, or p-ish thoughts PERIOD, and without his OWN HAND working it. It's conditioned to only work for him, and p now, or while he objecifies, himself, me, and sex in general, per se. It's not you, If he's struggling, that's on him. The question is why? Could it be prozac? yeah maybe. Could he know more than he's telling you? yeah maybe. Could it be you name thangy, maybe but not likely imo. They can't just come out and say, "I need a p thought" now, or it won't work", can they? Nay, they look for every other excuse besides the p/mb, that can't be it, because it still works for that! lol! It's ALWAYS multiple factors. You can figure out what some of them are for him to settle it in your mind, but only he can really name them all for himself, and then only if he puts serious effort into it. But it's a lot like holding a cross, or garlic up to vampire. They are programmed to reject the truth about p/mb AT ALL costs. But the good news is, we aren't. [/trigger]

[completelydone]

Well thank goodness!

[realthing]

scared its the prozac kicking in

sorry to but in here - just to say when i was prescribed prozac (i only took it 6wks before falling pregnant and came off it) around week 3 I found real problems to climax - never any prob before - but yes it did feel kind of numb - good chance he's telling the truth i think.

[kello2005]

megan! I'm so happy for you that "rachel" was nothing!!! Must have been quite relieving and strange to get GOOD news for once, to not have your worst fears confirmed!! Woohoo