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Post by lee1234 on Jan 1, 2008 23:53:38 GMT -5
some of his seem to be returning. Secrecy about money and overspending. I think he bought himself a new PS3 and XBox 360 on a credit card he opened. I've been asking him to cut it up, but he still hasn't. I told him he's being evasive. No response. I can't help but feel this means other old habits will soon return if not already. So much for the trust that was being rebuilt since d-day. Am I overreacting? Seems like the same old pattern.
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Post by lee1234 on Jan 2, 2008 1:01:31 GMT -5
It's actually worse than I Imagined.... I got ahold of his new credit card. In less than two months, he's got over $6000 in charges. I am so incredibly pissed off. He hasn't been honest with me at all about our finances. He's such a liar. I guess maybe he doesn't think lies of ommission are lies. There's just no telling what else he has lied about. I am shaking so bad right now... This is so incredibly unfair... I have always been so honest and open and faithful to him. He can't or won't control himself. I don't even know what to do..... So much for rebuilding our marrige in the new year. Feels just as much of a sham as ever.
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Post by Benderson on Jan 2, 2008 12:12:54 GMT -5
I'm so sorry. Do you have the ability to suspend the account or prevent him from having a new card issued?
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Post by lee1234 on Jan 2, 2008 14:08:39 GMT -5
I don't think I can have the account suspended. I don't know if he used my credit to get the account or if it's just in his name. I do know only one card was issued and I cut it up. I took his debit card back again. I woke him up and confronted him about the card. I don't think he was honest with me about it still. He claimed he spend most of it the night I kicked him out, but I asked to see the statement and it's been ongoing. I also remember the physical card came in the mail while he was gone. I should have cut it up then, but I didn't. I let him come home to get some things while I was out of town. When I got back, the card was gone. So there's another lie. I feel like he doesn't care about my feelings at all. He kept saying he knew I wouldn't understand. Hell yeah I don't understand. How the hell can I understand him charging close to $6500 in less than two months when we are supposed to be rebuilding trust? I can't trust a liar. I am going to tell him to sell his personal possessions (thousands upon thousands of dollars in video games and comic books) to pay the debt. I'm thinking of separation again. He just doesn't seem to respect me as a partner in this marriage.
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