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Post by Charlie on Jul 11, 2006 12:03:00 GMT -5
Hi,
I don’t often post on this board but I do read it and I get a great deal of strength and hope here.
A little over 2 years ago, I was confronting the shambles I’d made of my life, my wife’s life, and our marriage. Not for the first time either, but this time I knew the marriage could easily be over. Done. Fini. I could see no reason for her to stay with me. She was pretty much ready to grab the kids and leave me to rot with my porn. A gutter-bum, just with a better place to live.
I discarded all of my porn. I began therapy. I began attending 12-step meetings and actually doing what was suggested. I began to read the boards. And recovery books. My wife and I evaluated and installed a filter with an accountability feature on the computer. I knew the original password, but suggested that she change it (I assume she did – I didn’t ask). I changed my heavily spammed e-mail address. I supported her telling whoever she needed to, to get support for herself. Even though I knew them and would have to encounter them. In short, I didn’t just swear off, I actually did stuff about it – for the first time ever.
It’s now a couple of days before my 23rd wedding anniversary. There just are no words for this feeling.
Thank you so much.
-charlie (a very grateful addict today)
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Post by nowforever on Jul 11, 2006 12:12:27 GMT -5
Thank you for the inspiration Charlie. It is very encouraging for new members such as myself to read posts from people who are actually succeeding.
Happy anniversary and many many more.
Thank you for posting!
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Post by MJ on Jul 11, 2006 12:27:02 GMT -5
Hey Charlie,
Congratulations to you on your anniversary. I like hearing from people like you who are doing so well. You're an inspiration to someone like me who's just starting the fight. Keep up the good work, man!
Peace--- MJ
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Post by just4today04 on Jul 11, 2006 13:23:42 GMT -5
Good for you, my friend! Keep up the good work and don't be a stranger! We need all the inspiration we can get.
God Bless You, Shawn
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Post by Disillusioned on Jul 11, 2006 13:28:12 GMT -5
Nice post, Charlie
I love you too.
:-)
-the SO
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Post by steve75 on Jul 11, 2006 13:28:31 GMT -5
Its good to see that recovery is possible. Sometimes we think that it will never stop.
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Post by So_fedup on Jul 11, 2006 13:38:31 GMT -5
Congrats Charlie and Disillusioned !!!!!
what a Wonderful post. May You both have a Wonderful Day, and Many more Wonderful Years ahead.
Again Congrats.
sfu :-*l
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Post by Charlie on Jul 11, 2006 15:01:25 GMT -5
Thanks so much. There is a wonderful bunch of people on this board. Steve, I’m not exactly sure what you mean by ‘it’. If you mean recovery seems non-stop, for me I think it is indeed and must be. The day to day mud-and-blood battles have gotten easier, but my recovery must continue actively. That’s not a depressing thought for me, though. Recovery must become second nature. As time goes on, “recovery” looks more and more like “living”. -charlie PS I love you too, Disillusioned.
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Post by So_fedup on Jul 11, 2006 15:07:59 GMT -5
Thanks so much. There is a wonderful bunch of people on this board. Steve, I’m not exactly sure what you mean by ‘it’. If you mean recovery seems non-stop, for me I think it is indeed and must be. The day to day mud-and-blood battles have gotten easier, but my recovery must continue actively. That’s not a depressing thought for me, though. Recovery must become second nature. As time goes on, “recovery” looks more and more like “living”. -charlie Charlie. Your last paragraph is about the best way I think I have ever heard Recovery Expressed in a Positive Way. I have heard it expressed in many different ways before that I appreciated and liked, but I think yours is one that puts more of a Positive spin on it. thank you, its a Very profound way to look at it. sfu
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Post by ShatteredBride on Jul 11, 2006 17:35:42 GMT -5
Congratulations you two!!! Gives me some hope...
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Post by TH on Jul 11, 2006 18:06:16 GMT -5
Right on Charlie and Disillusioned!
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Post by geoff on Jul 11, 2006 21:17:11 GMT -5
A very hearty congratulations Charlie and Disillusioned.
Take good care of each other and have a wonderful anniversary.
geoff
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Post by witness on Jul 11, 2006 21:26:37 GMT -5
As time goes on, “recovery” looks more and more like “living”.
What a line! Good living is what I want. So developing good habits is what I must do!
Congratulations to the two love birds!
I love a good success story!
May the Lord bless you today and use you to bless others!
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Post by tearsforrocky on Jul 11, 2006 21:28:11 GMT -5
Your post made my day ! ;D There is hope!!
Blessings to you and Disillusioned !
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Post by Benderson on Jul 12, 2006 7:15:24 GMT -5
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