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Post by seekinghealing on Dec 27, 2007 1:02:34 GMT -5
I'm on the edge. Its been a month since I looked at p. I might be about to "slip". Can anyone tell my why I shouldn't? Just spent time with family. Felt separate and different than the rest of them. I'm always a giving, nice (too nice?) guy. Everything I do is for others. I feel run-over. Used up. Tired. Been single a long time - feel separate. Getting depressed. No ambition. Career not going anywhere. Comments welcome...
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Post by ltcporter on Dec 27, 2007 3:26:07 GMT -5
anxiety is usually a trigger to looking at porn because it kinda gives you a high makes you forget about all the (expletive) you deal with. Were like druggies trying to achieve that first high. Honestly do stuff go out have fun and get yourself out of that rut your in. I've been there too man aimlessly wandering till i got serious about my career and my life. I feel better I don't know if your in school or already have a job. But this could be some good advice no job no matter how much money is worth it if your not happy doing it.
Do something for yourself go with your buddies to bar meet some girls. Again i don't know you ,but our stories were once the same. It doesn't feel good to be alone. don't sit at home all the time go out and do something for yourself. I hope i inspire you to do something fun. I'm sorry i can't give you any solid advice, but i hope this helps
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Post by zenzx on Dec 27, 2007 3:45:28 GMT -5
I agree with ltcporter. Go hang with some good friends and have some fun.
It's when I'm alone and depressed that I slowly drive myself to "slip". When you haven't looked at P- for that length of time, it's the negative thoughts like that that will ultimately destroy you man. Don't dwell.
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Post by seekinghealing on Dec 27, 2007 4:28:12 GMT -5
Thanks guys. I probably should have waited for your response but the urge was too strong and I gave in. Its over now - I watched p for almost 2 hours. Perhaps I'll be able to still stay away from watching p again and then remember your wise words if the urges come back. Yeah, a month porn-free was doing pretty darn good. Just coming back from being with family made me feel I needed to be alone to "unwind" and well maybe I should have gotten out of the house instead. I don't know.... I really appreciate the words from both of you...
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Post by imtheoneincontrol on Dec 27, 2007 15:38:13 GMT -5
This is a tricky time for me too - coming back from vacationing at home with the family. Some of those things you say resonate - being too nice, separate, no ambition, no career. One thing to consider: porn is become a release and a compensation for the way you feel you cannot be at home. As I get older and more mature, I'm less inclined to let others run me over - in my case, I'm less inclined to hold my tongue during dinner and family conversations. For a long time I felt I just couldn't share with my family the things that were running around in my head. They weren't malicious things, just that if I had said them would have been interpreted the wrong way. I've become more eloquent with time, and I choose my words more carefully. Congratulations on making it a month. Keep working harder!
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Post by seekinghealing on Dec 27, 2007 19:56:47 GMT -5
Thank you Imtheoneincontrol for your thoughts and words. Be well, sh
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