Post by falter on Dec 19, 2007 8:45:51 GMT -5
OK. This is my first day here so If I'm going against the grain by not lurking long enough then I apologize. I am 24 years old, married, and have been "into" P since I was about 15. I typically spend 2-3 hrs a day on my addiction. I know I am addicted to it because I have hurt my wife in the past with it, after that I vowed to break what I thought at the time was a bad habit. That was about three years ago.
I feel like a fool. I am tired of wasting my time on something that has no benefit for me whatsoever. When I step back and look at the big picture I am disgusted to realize how much of my LIFE I have wasted, and continue to waste on something so degrading and self destructive. My wife thinks I broke the habit, but all that really happened was I got better at hiding it. I love her. How she can love me I don't think I'll ever understand, but she does and I am eternally grateful. I am in a bad place to be trying to straighten this mess out but I am determined. I am in the Army and currently deployed to Iraq, my wife is back home in GA, sounds like BS excuses, I agree.
So... I feel it would help me to make these affirmations aloud.
Pornography is destructive to my relationship and personal well-being. I WILL NOT pander to the child in me that demands it.
My wife is a beautiful person and should be treated as such. I WILL NOT deny her the husband that she deserves to have.
Time is not something that I can ever get back. I WILL NOT continue to waste time that could be better spent improving myself while I am deployed.
It felt pretty good to say that, I am thankful that this board is here at all. Today is day one for me, I intend to be through with all this by the time I go home in AUG/SEP. I hope, no I WILL do this. Thanks for being my sounding board.
I feel like a fool. I am tired of wasting my time on something that has no benefit for me whatsoever. When I step back and look at the big picture I am disgusted to realize how much of my LIFE I have wasted, and continue to waste on something so degrading and self destructive. My wife thinks I broke the habit, but all that really happened was I got better at hiding it. I love her. How she can love me I don't think I'll ever understand, but she does and I am eternally grateful. I am in a bad place to be trying to straighten this mess out but I am determined. I am in the Army and currently deployed to Iraq, my wife is back home in GA, sounds like BS excuses, I agree.
So... I feel it would help me to make these affirmations aloud.
Pornography is destructive to my relationship and personal well-being. I WILL NOT pander to the child in me that demands it.
My wife is a beautiful person and should be treated as such. I WILL NOT deny her the husband that she deserves to have.
Time is not something that I can ever get back. I WILL NOT continue to waste time that could be better spent improving myself while I am deployed.
It felt pretty good to say that, I am thankful that this board is here at all. Today is day one for me, I intend to be through with all this by the time I go home in AUG/SEP. I hope, no I WILL do this. Thanks for being my sounding board.