Death - a reminder

[ingodwetrust]

Hi everyone
I haven't seen a topic similar to this so I open this one. I think there are a lot of good strategies one can find on this forum. Most of them are helpfull. However I would like to write about something slightly different. Death is something of a taboo subject amongst people today, yet it exists and people die every single day... What I want to say is that death is a good reminder why one needs to be free from PA among other things. If this was your last night would you spend it on P? Would you choose to feel like (expletive) every single time when you relapse or would you choose love and peace with yourself, people that soround you and God?
Death reminds us to love NOW, to feel peace NOW and to quit PA NOW...Death is not something that always happens to other people...My cusin died at age of 30...Makes me feel scared when I think about him..Lets be free and in peace:)

[ingodwetrust]

You are welcome to share your feelings, thoughts etc here about the topic if you want...if not stay in peace:)
This one I like...

The Value of Time
To realize the value of one year: Ask a student who has failed a final exam.
To realize the value of one month: Ask a mother who has given birth to a premature baby.
To realize the value of one week: Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.
To realize the value of one hour: Ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.
To realize the value of one minute: Ask the person who has missed the train, bus or plane.
To realize the value of one second: Ask a person who has survived an accident.
To realize the value of one millisecond: Ask the person who has won a silver medal in the Olympics.

[ingodwetrust]

Death teaches us--if we want to hear--that the time is now. The time is now to pick up a telephone and call the person that you love. Death teaches us the joy of the moment. It teaches us we don't have forever. If teaches us that nothing is permanent, It teaches us to let go, there's nothing you can hang on to. And it tells us to give up on expectations and let tomorrow tell its own story, because nobody knows if they'll get home tonight. To me that's a tremendous challenge. Death says, "Live now."

Dr. Buscaglia's message is clear.
Life is lived in the here and now, we must clear our lives of the essential trivia to make more room for living and loving.
Live each day as if it were to be your last. Because one of these days you will be right.

[Curious Voyager]

I'm not so sure. Back while acting out and I'll skip details, I would feel like my heart was going to explode. I actually sat there AFRAID that I might die and be discovered and how embarrassed everyone would be by me. That didn't stop me.

SG was an auto-erotic asphyxiater. Nobody knew that until one of his daughters came home from school to find him. . . and his pile of porn mags on the floor under him. They were devastated. Almost 2 decades later and there are still repercussions.

So death wasn't much a motivator for me and certainly not for SG. he's dead, you can't argue with the dead.

I live and I have hope.

So, we don't know much of your story yet, what about that?

[ingodwetrust]

If I had My Life to Live Over

I would have talked less and listened more.
I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded.
I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.
I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.
I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.
I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.
I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains.
I would have cried and laughed less while watching television - and more while watching life.
I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.
I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.
I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.
Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.
When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, "Later. Now go get washed up for dinner."
There would have been more "I love you's".. more "I'm sorry's"... but mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute...look at it and really see it... live it...and never give it back.
Remember to seize every minute... look at it and really see it... live it...but most of all...never give it back!

[ingodwetrust]

Hi Voyager
Well it's your choice man:) It may not stop you that time or next time but it is going to stop you eventually. 100% So if you want to live and on your deathbed look back and be 'proud' of your life as a PA that's your choice. But if you really want to think and live your life like a man and not like an animal then death can be a nice reminder that the time we have is limited:)

p.s Have you ever seen or heard a person dying? Have you felt the fear that this person feels? You can taste, smell that fear..If you knew that you will die tonight you would not be thinking about P, but deep inside you believe that you have a lot of time and that death is something distant that happens to other people and that's why death "doesnt work for you" when it comes to PA. But wait, life is short and one day you will for sure be old and in no need of P and then you will know... I, myself can stay from P when I think about death, when I dont I tend to do stupid things:) But I feel nice, clean and determined to live a life that will let me feel proud of myself even when death comes.

[Curious Voyager]

Your response confuses me. I am not past the fear of death but I don't worry about it.

1 Cor. 15:

26 The last enemy that shall be destroyed is death.

55 O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory?

56 The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law.

You post your platitudes and I'll work my recovery. I've made my choice and it's LIFE.

Addiction is death. Recovery is LIFE.

Today is the day to work recovery and NO man knows when his time comes to an end. Focus on LIFE, death isn't a dead end but why rush it.

[ingodwetrust]

You didnt understand me:) Thinking about death can in fact make one's mind clear so that he/she chooses LIFE. Life with P is no life it's just worthless living from one day to another.
You do your way I'll do my way but we both get to see death way.
That sounds nice:)

p.s "You post your platitudes and I'll work my recovery" Voyager
Don't get insulted man no need for that:)

[Curious Voyager]

I know a 78 year old porn addict, who is not in recovery. And you didn't understand me.

[ingodwetrust]

Well ok. He will be recovered when they put him to rest:) You know, the fact that some people are stupid and never learn doesn't mean others should follow them. I know that there are people who do evil deeds until they die but that's their problem. Those who are smart will think, those who aren't will be "cured" by death. Now I gotta go. Stay in peace:)