Could This Work?

[straightpepperdiet]

The next time I'll donate money to an animal rescue website or some other charity org instead of buying a p*rn site membership. Does anyone think that could combat the urge to look at p*rn?

[tomlincolnsixecho]

I think it still comes down to saying no, I think Ive done this before and just broke the rules. Someone suggested at one stage donating to your opposing political party, That would never work for me, I would never ever ever do that. Its pretty easy to cheat.

[pac2544]

I never pay for porn. But I 'spend' lots of time using it. What if I were to donate an equal amount of time to a charity after I've looked at porn. That would put a sobering perspective on how much time I waste in this addiction.

[addict70]

Would'nt work for me, I'm not very charitable. Actually I'm kind of a stingy jerk. But I'm ok with that ;D

If it makes you feel good about yourself then go for it. Could'nt hurt, but I dont think donating you're P money would be a cure all.

[facingit]

pac2544 said:

I never pay for porn. But I 'spend' lots of time using it. What if I were to donate an equal amount of time to a charity after I've looked at porn. That would put a sobering perspective on how much time I waste in this addiction.

Hey, I like this idea! I think the whole donating money thing is kind of relative - because unless you are donating enough money to really hurt yourself financially, you are just "paying for porn" in a different way - your establishing a price that you are willing to pay in exchange for your high. Time, however, is a more absolute commodity and it is less fluid than money - also more difficult to break the rules. I agree with the poster who said that ultimately it still comes down to your decision to say no, however. You can devise all kinds of cute systems, but it is the act of saying "no" over and over and over that is the essence of recovery.

[tomlincolnsixecho]

I've tried a similar method to this before, like anything it works for al ittle while, then it doesn.t

[straightpepperdiet]

Hmmmm, ok. I won't donate every time I get the urge, just once a month and I'll continue by saying "NO!" to the maniac in my head.

[Curious Voyager]

At best this is a stop gap to gain some sobriety, which can have value. Remember that addicts will risk their jobs, their family, even their personal freedom because addiction controls us, not the other way around. What you are describing is attempting to punish or bribe your Self to sobriety.

That is not recovery. Only recovery will bring the freedom and peace you seek.

Are you addicts? Have you fully accepted that you are? Do you understand what that means?

[straightpepperdiet]

fiosaiche said:

At best this is a stop gap to gain some sobriety, which can have value. Remember that addicts will risk their jobs, their family, even their personal freedom because addiction controls us, not the other way around. What you are describing is attempting to punish or bribe your Self to sobriety.

That is not recovery. Only recovery will bring the freedom and peace you seek.

Are you addicts? Have you fully accepted that you are? Do you understand what that means?

Thanks CV, I didn't see it as a bribe but it makes a lot of sense. I'll drop the idea and continue asking my Higher Power for strength and guidance.

[Curious Voyager]

straightpepperdiet said:

Thanks CV, I didn't see it as a bribe but it makes a lot of sense. I'll drop the idea and continue asking my Higher Power for strength and guidance.

If it works to bring you sobriety then don't drop it. Sobriety is critical for working recovery. But sobriety whether gained through bribes, threats, punishment or prayers is not the same as recovery. Recovery takes work and I think a recovery plan of some sort. There are many out there.

Recovery means that the man who entered addiction addresses those flaws and weakness that enslaved him with addiction. You must change your Self to be free.

[chasmjumper]

Half the fun for me was finding any porn I wanted without paying for it. I even broke into a website once and downloaded videos they hadn't even released to their paying members. They had a numerical naming system for their videos, but the links for later videos weren't activated, so I extrapolated and it turned out they were already there. That was bad.

How about actually volunteering time at an animal rescue or charity? You'll feel good for doing something to help and it'll give you less opportunity to screw up and use porn. If you're still intent on giving away money, I'd be glad to take however many hundred or thousand we are talking about here.