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Post by hiddentoolong on Dec 15, 2007 14:12:21 GMT -5
I've finally come to terms with the fact that I'm completely addicted to P.
It caused relationship issues between my parents and I, and it's killing my relationship with my girlfriend.
I started watching it when I was 14, and now find myself falling back to it every time I try to stop.
I don't want to lose my girlfriend, she's my life, but she can't trust me right now (and I can see why, I've promised a few times that I'd stop.)
I really have nowhere else to turn, what can I do to help break my addiction? I'm sick of my life being like this.
Thanks to anyone who replies.
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Post by unico on Dec 15, 2007 14:38:32 GMT -5
That's a strong starting point. The next step is to set yourself targets e.g. 3,7,14,21,30 days porn free.
I found the Rational Recovery Handbook helpful because it placed a lot of emphasis on taking personal responsibility for Stopping your behaviour. You are not powerless in the face of your addiction. You have it within you to change your behaviour.
I was scared when I joined here back in May '07 because I could not imagine a life without porn. However, despite my fear have remained porn free (it gets easier with time).
I have every faith you can turn your life around. You just have to believe it for yourself.
Start a Journal, and keep posting/reading here, because I believe just being here will have positive effect on your recovery.
Remember, nobody has a monopoly on recovery methods. Find what works for you and discard the rest
take care
unico
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Post by here2learn on Dec 15, 2007 14:39:42 GMT -5
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Post by hiddentoolong on Dec 15, 2007 14:48:04 GMT -5
Thanks for the replies so far.
I do have other reasons, those two are by far the two that stand out the most in my mind.
I'm just sick of having an addiction and being ashamed of it, and I can't believe it's costing me my relationship.
I love her so much, and I just need to drive towards this so I don't ruin things long term before it's too late
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Post by addict70 on Dec 15, 2007 14:56:31 GMT -5
I just got here less than a week ago and am about to go my first week in a very long time P free. So far everyone has been really cool despite the fact that I wont shut up. Do it and do it now man. I've already ripped my life to shreads.
Look around on here there's lots of good advice and plenty of horror stories showing what this problem actually does to people.
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Post by kyle on Dec 15, 2007 19:12:35 GMT -5
Hiddentoolong, To start things off I want to say this. Like all my other initial posts, the words here are completely heartfelt. I have written several to new folks and I have the same intent behind each of them, but it is sometimes hard for me to get the words right. I have made this one that I send to the newcomers and want you to know that I mean everything written. I think John has a similar thing and I agree with him that These are sincere words to you and each new person here. I first want to welcome you to the first day of your new life. I, and many others, will tell you that you have taken a HUGE first step in your goal of recovery. You have opened yourself up and allowed others to see and for many, that is the Hardest part of all. Truly admitting that you have a problem is big in starting your recovery. I am glad that you have chosen to seek out help. I waited much too long, 20+ years, and it nearly destroyed my family. Congratulations on seeing this as a problem and taking the appropriate steps to break free. As for me, I follow God. I know others here do not have the same beliefs as I, and they will be sharing with you as well. I follow my faith very closely now and have grown a lot because of that. I have begun a free on line course at www.settingcaptivesfree.com called the way of purity. This is a biblically based course that I have found extremely helpful with my recovery. there are several of us on this forum who I have seen are committed to this course and have been helped by it. Secondly, there are several book that are very good reading and have excellent advise to follow. I am currently reading The Exemplary Husband by Stuart Scott . I have a couple more waiting in the wings to read; Facing your Giants by Max Lucado and a couple that are also marriage related. The seven principles for making Marriage work by John Gottman and The war Within by Robert Daniel. I have found these very helpful so far and look forward to picking up th next book to continue in the right direction. Third I would suggest coming here often. I come here daily and read what others are going through and it helps me to see where I was, where I am and most importantly, where I am going. Focus is a key and maintaining that focus will carry me through. Again I welcome you and wish you great successes in your recovery from this horrible sin that has plagued our lives. God bless you and yours. Keep the faith my Brother, |
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Post by breakingfree on Dec 15, 2007 20:02:46 GMT -5
Welcome to the board,
Read this again, this is great advice. Start a journal today i(n the journal forum, just start a new thread).
Use this forum as the foundation of your recovery. Post and journal every day, ask questions. Formulate a sobriety plan. Just try and take your sobriety one day at at time.
Thanks for joining us on the road to recovery.
bf
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