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Anger
Dec 15, 2007 2:52:57 GMT -5
Post by corvidmortum on Dec 15, 2007 2:52:57 GMT -5
Something that happened awhile ago and seems to bother me. I hope no one minds if I vent a bit.
Recently I was in a bookstore, and was looking through the computer/gaming magazine area. I happened across a magazine that was definitely "out of place." [trigger]"Heavy Metal" which for those who don't know is just P in comic form.[/trigger] I calmly went and told the clerk that they needed to move this particular magazine to the upper shelves with the rest of the P crap. Okay I didn't say crap I said stuff. The clerk was very nice and understanding, and apologized, moved the magazine immediately. A couple of weeks, maybe a month, later I was back in the bookstore and it was back. Down on a shelf where children could get at it. I told the store manager that I had mentioned this problem last time, and here it was occurring all over again. I felt like I got the "wow what an @$$" and they told me they would send an e-mail to the department head.
I have a strong urge to go back and see what has been done to correct this situation. Where do I go from there if it hasn't been corrected?
Sorry for the vent but my Anger/Stress management taught me that holding this stuff in destroys us.
Thank you, Corvid
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Anger
Dec 15, 2007 8:20:58 GMT -5
Post by breakingfree on Dec 15, 2007 8:20:58 GMT -5
Corvid,
Understand your anger. It sounds like you dealt with it in an appropriate manner.
IMO, from another PA with anger management stuff(don't we all)
Leave it alone, brother. You said what you had to say. For me, part of anger management it, is learning to let it go. You did something you felt you needed to do and in an appropriate manner. now, LET IT GO. If you escalate the situation, are you doing because you really feel this will help correct it or because you are pissed off at them?
bf
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Anger
Dec 15, 2007 9:10:54 GMT -5
Post by mo4wo1 on Dec 15, 2007 9:10:54 GMT -5
Hi.
May I vent with you? A lady on "the other side" has even gone as far as speaking to the police about certain "mags" at her local store being placed where children can see. They made their changes then! (And I think she's awesome for that, lol!) There are laws against this stuff for a reason!
I have been known to make a "big show" at our local movie rental place. They would place "men's mags" literally next to the children's candy! They made some changes for a while but they slipping back into old habits.
Personally, I think it's commendable that you reported it & demanded change. Most people are too afraid or too selfish to realize what we do & don't do really does affect everyone in one way or another. And for each mouth that stays shut & each mind that says, "Let the other guy do it." there's many more eyes that see this crap & minds that are retrained by this crap & hearts that are wounded by this crap.
I wish someone had the guts to speak up WRT a record cover I & my H came across at a local used-book store. Woud have saved some serious pain for us both.
What's that saying? The only thing necessary for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing? I believe in this, wholeheartedly. I have more to say but I think I will start another thread.
Thank you. Your post helped me see something today, even if it's not the "thing" I was supposed to see.
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Anger
Dec 15, 2007 9:16:45 GMT -5
Post by mo4wo1 on Dec 15, 2007 9:16:45 GMT -5
Corvid, Understand your anger. It sounds like you dealt with it in an appropriate manner. IMO, from another PA with anger management stuff(don't we all) Leave it alone, brother. You said what you had to say. For me, part of anger management it, is learning to let it go. You did something you felt you needed to do and in an appropriate manner. now, LET IT GO. If you escalate the situation, are you doing because you really feel this will help correct it or because you are pissed off at them? bf BF, With all due respect, I think you are wrong on this one. Yes, motives are key. He certainly did not come across as just fighting to fight. IMO, his anger is righteous. There is nothing wrong with speaking up for the right reason, as in to affect a positive change for the right reasons. I am not sure if you know of the "thing" he's speaking of but I do... all too well. He did the right thing, IMO.
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Rorke's Drift
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Anger
Dec 15, 2007 11:35:25 GMT -5
Post by Rorke's Drift on Dec 15, 2007 11:35:25 GMT -5
Corvid, I think what you did is very commendable, and most important, you saw a problem and you took action immediately...unslefishly, with courage. Don't beat yourself about getting upset. The fact that you took action for the sake of justice easliy trumps that.
RD
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Anger
Dec 15, 2007 17:16:21 GMT -5
Post by completelydone on Dec 15, 2007 17:16:21 GMT -5
It's illegal to have this stuff where kids can see it. Call the police.
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Anger
Dec 15, 2007 20:18:56 GMT -5
Post by breakingfree on Dec 15, 2007 20:18:56 GMT -5
Mo . I was not talking about motives. His motives are fine. It is my perception of his inability , to LET GO of the anger that I was addressing. And I was speaking from my perspective as a PA with a really bad history of anger management. I have a history of getting involved in situations like this and never knowing when to quit. Mrs. usually has to say, "let it go. You have made your point. Now you are just pissed off looking for a fight."
bf
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Anger
Dec 15, 2007 20:23:05 GMT -5
Post by megan11 on Dec 15, 2007 20:23:05 GMT -5
Ask ZT what to do, LOL!!!!!!! The whole Shell gas station she had beef was with GREAT!
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Anger
Dec 15, 2007 20:25:19 GMT -5
Post by megan11 on Dec 15, 2007 20:25:19 GMT -5
Hi. May I vent with you? A lady on "the other side" has even gone as far as speaking to the police about certain "mags" at her local store being placed where children can see. They made their changes then! (And I think she's awesome for that, lol!) There are laws against this stuff for a reason! I have been known to make a "big show" at our local movie rental place. They would place "men's mags" literally next to the children's candy! They made some changes for a while but they slipping back into old habits. Personally, I think it's commendable that you reported it & demanded change. Most people are too afraid or too selfish to realize what we do & don't do really does affect everyone in one way or another. And for each mouth that stays shut & each mind that says, "Let the other guy do it." there's many more eyes that see this crap & minds that are retrained by this crap & hearts that are wounded by this crap. I wish someone had the guts to speak up WRT a record cover I & my H came across at a local used-book store. Woud have saved some serious pain for us both. What's that saying? The only thing necessary for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing? I believe in this, wholeheartedly. I have more to say but I think I will start another thread. Thank you. Your post helped me see something today, even if it's not the "thing" I was supposed to see. Can we all cheer, GO ZT!!!!!!!!!! LOL
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Anger
Dec 18, 2007 12:47:40 GMT -5
Post by mo4wo1 on Dec 18, 2007 12:47:40 GMT -5
Mo . I was not talking about motives. His motives are fine. It is my perception of his inability , to LET GO of the anger that I was addressing. And I was speaking from my perspective as a PA with a really bad history of anger management. I have a history of getting involved in situations like this and never knowing when to quit. Mrs. usually has to say, "let it go. You have made your point. Now you are just pissed off looking for a fight." bf Would not "just looking for a fight" be a motive? Again, I think he was right on this & it really is something worth hanging on to until fruition... seriously. Maybe you are projecting a bit more than you realize? Yes, your words indicate that you see this with the way you mentioned you were (basically) speaking from your experiences. But those are yours. And from what he described here, that is not what this was, looking for a fight, being angry still after the deed was done. Affecting a change requires full follow-through, not just complaining. It requires working it until the change is in effect & taking the full steps to get it there. I can understand the notion that maybe he's biting off more than he can chew right now. But considering how he says he handled it, I see that he "handled it" appropriately. Been through anger management. Did it a year or so ago. I get that. That's not what he described, though. I would like you to really consider this from an outside perspective, outside of yourself & your experiences.
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Anger
Dec 22, 2007 13:24:29 GMT -5
Post by corvidmortum on Dec 22, 2007 13:24:29 GMT -5
Thank you all,
I was in that store the other day and did not "check up". I have been to anger management due to my many issues at work. This particular item wasn't a "Can't let go" situation. I had totally forgotten about the issue until I saw it all over again. For me I won't go seeking it out, but will definitely "speak my mind" if I happen to see it again.
Corvid
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