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Post by uranium92 on Jun 29, 2005 5:36:39 GMT -5
okay so ive done the board in the recovery section a bunch of times. ive tried for like 5 days total to stop and did. then i went back to the way i was the next week. and then tried again did really well 3 days. but now im back at square one. i keep losing sight of my goals im in college and this crap is just making me sick now. whenever i wanna talk to a girl i keep thinking of that nasty p. that i looked at. i want to end it but after a while i quit going to the board. i quit thinking its such a wrong idea to mb. it sucks because i really want to talk to girls for once and not have somthing trigger the p. i saw the night before. im in college and besides distracting me from studies it also doesnt help my chances with potentials dating wise. i will leave this thread as saying i need advice as to taking how to take aim and how to stick to your goals. ive found that my p addiction and my alcohol addiction as well as any other addiction (chain smoking) all fall hand in hand. im gonna attempt to detox for a while but i do like to go out with buddies and drink some (i am in college ya know) and it sucks that one cant leave without the other. sorry for my rambling writing techniques.
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Post by vessel on Jun 29, 2005 7:49:00 GMT -5
Hey!
it sounds like you have a lot on - I don't think I could drop it all at once. I am no expert but have you thought of picking just one of your addictions that make you feel the worst and going 'cold-turkey' one at a time. Maybe one leads to another - think about it - then drop the root cause. In my experience, you will not be able to look at girls without judging them sexually until you drop P for long enough to clear those images from your brain. We all forget - so, take your time - do not beat yourself up about it. We are all in this boat - use the boards as a crutch for a while if it helps.
really, best of luck - you are in good company,
vessel
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Post by afraid on Jun 29, 2005 19:40:18 GMT -5
At a 12 step meeting recently, someone said something that really struck me as being true for me. Apart from being an sa, the fellow was also in recovery for drugs and alcohol but as he put it, despite all the boozing and drugging, there was always one constant in his life. MB. Ever since he could remember it had been with him. Yeah, we may be multiple addicts but this mb, porn et all may well be the big daddy of them all. Something to think about.
Take it easy. If I can suggest, choose one thing and work on that. The rest will follow. Keep us updated on progress.
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Post by manonmission on Jun 30, 2005 12:00:21 GMT -5
U92,
This is my first post, second day of recovery (this time). I also was a drunk, smoker, compulsive eater (man sometimes I surprise myself at has messed up I have been), and my experiece is this: I quit drinking without much trouble. I quit smoking through accountablilty and willpower. These are not natural functions, but poisons introduced through stupid habbits developed through years of programming your body and mind. Eating and sex are different. If you can quit drinking you will be clearer and stronger (yes you can get through college sober). This will make you P. adiction easier to conquer. Your sex drive will exist no matter what. There is no need in placing land-mines in your own field as you seek conquering this addiction.
Not wise, but wiser than I used to be...hopfully!
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