partners' board

[elise]

Just a quickie to say I think it's great to have a separate partner's forum.

A couple of times I've really felt the need to vent against my H's addiction, but have been aware that it's not really helpful to a lot of the SAs out there, and could even potentially be damaging. I've been aware of "censoring" a little bit, just in case I offend or discourage. As partners, I think we have a very different set of problems to face, which sometimes only another SO can empathise with.

Having said that, we have a lot to learn from each other, in a space where we are without that emotional attachment which makes communication with our partners so very difficult at times. So, even though the board is separate, it's still good to see threads from both sides.

So when I'm or , please don't be , stay and eventually I'll ;D again, !!

Keep up the good work, Wes!

[beks]

Agreed, Elise!

I also censor my postings - perhaps that won't be necessary on here.

As time goes on I'm liking the board more and more.

Cheers Wes.

Beks

[P]

I am very happy to see a separate board. I hope this will be a place of healing.

Serenity
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[k2]

Hi All,

I agree, the separate board is a great idea, primarily beacuse of the issue of feeling like we need to censor ourselves or chose our words carefully on the SA board.

I enjoy posting/reading there, and find the SA input very helpful in understanding the addiction sometimes... but when dealing with certain threads more SO related, I often found myself leaving certain things unsaid on the old board. Was not so much afraid of offending, as I was of posting information that might be too sexually explicit and serve as a trigger for the SAs. Goodness knows I would have hated to feel at all responsible to contributing to a slip, when we are all here to provide support instead.

Any ways, just wishing you all a great day today. Take care and God bless,

K

[Stillhopeful]

Good idea to hve this board.

Still

[Danielle]

I like the new board. This is great!
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[happy]

Hi Elise,

I actually like the venting, it's a reality check for me. When I start thinking selfish thoughts like, "oh, one time won't hurt, no one will know", it does me good to read a vent. In no time at all, the temptation is gone, and realize how desctrictive and damaging this addiction is.

So, keep up the venting.

56 days and loving it!

Happy

[kt]

I am so lost. My husband has been hiding his porn addiction for quite a few years. We have had discussions about the online viewing and he assured me that it was just out of boredom. It never has stopped and he has just been better at hiding it on the computer. I found this week that he is going into sexual chat rooms, when confronted, he said that he was just wasting some time. I don't even know where to start and was hoping that someone out there could give me a hand. Thanks a bunch

KT

[P]

KT

It is good that you found this board although I am sorry that you had to look for it at all.

My husband used the " I'm just bored" excuse for a very very very long time. It was when he started to go to cam rooms that was my bottom line. That was too close to stepping over the line into real life for me. After many years and almost complete annihilation of my values, I finally told him STOP. I had to set a boundary of no porn for my own sanity. I told him that I no longer could tolerate his porn activities in our marriage. My rage toward him was spilling over into our children's lives. It had to stop and I was prepared to continue my life without a wedding ring if he were to continue his porn use.

Serenity
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