Post by elise on Feb 24, 2003 10:45:02 GMT -5
Hi Beks!
I can see you're online. I hope you're still there by the time I've finished typing. You sound a bit down today, so just to let you know I'm thinking of you.
You really helped me 2 weeks ago when I'd had a bad weekend.
Stay strong. You are a great person with a lot of love to give. Your H is just not capable of hearing your needs at the moment. Give him time and space.
Last night when you are both exhausted was probably not the best time to ask for his support. Wait until he's rested and available and I'm sure talk to him in a non-threatening way. Use lots of "I" statements (I feel tired, I feel vulnerable at the moment....), being careful not to be accusatory or demanding. If he does not feel attacked, or that it is his fault that you are feeling bad, he will be much more likely to give you at least some of what you need.
LOL
I can see you're online. I hope you're still there by the time I've finished typing. You sound a bit down today, so just to let you know I'm thinking of you.
You really helped me 2 weeks ago when I'd had a bad weekend.
Stay strong. You are a great person with a lot of love to give. Your H is just not capable of hearing your needs at the moment. Give him time and space.
Last night when you are both exhausted was probably not the best time to ask for his support. Wait until he's rested and available and I'm sure talk to him in a non-threatening way. Use lots of "I" statements (I feel tired, I feel vulnerable at the moment....), being careful not to be accusatory or demanding. If he does not feel attacked, or that it is his fault that you are feeling bad, he will be much more likely to give you at least some of what you need.
LOL