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Post by liberta on Dec 17, 2007 8:18:35 GMT -5
Addicted for almost 12 years. 3 months ago I firmly decided to stop, and since than I don't have any wish to do it. But in those 3 months I suffer depressions, social phobia, so many shame based fears, everything that I hold inside somehow came out,...
Is there any thread or useful articles about different stages of recovery. I want to relate my experance of sobriety in this period with others (who are sober longer than me), I want to know if this things are normal, if this will pass (how long does it last) and what kind of change can I expect. Something for my motivation...
Thank you for your answers!
Nick
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Post by recreatingkevin on Dec 17, 2007 8:33:13 GMT -5
I have found similar experiences myself. First off, congrats on your new dedication and desire to stop. I have felt that porn was an outlet for me to relieve stress. When I no longer do porn and MB, I still have the stress and pent-up something-or-other. I have found exercise and plain old will power to be good for me. Also, I started taking depression meds since there was obviously something there driving my desires. So, I'd say find something that works for you and stick with it: A therapist, meds, exercise, something that is a PLAN and work the plan. Do it for yourself, and you will always have the motivation you need. Also, prayer works great for me. I believe we're all made in God's image, so connecting with God has helped me. Good luck to you.
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Post by kyle on Dec 17, 2007 10:29:35 GMT -5
I think it is just a part of recovery that has to be gone through. You have, for however long it was, had something in your life that you put attention to. You put alot of time and energy into it and now it is gone. You have to make an effort to fill that void with something positive and useful. It can be anything you want as long as it is not Porn.
As far as the social phobias are concerned, in the past you were alone and didn't really have to interact with anyone. Now you are out and about and have to relearn some of the things you have forgotten in dealing with people in a social setting. There are many self help books and such out there. and depending on how bad you feel these issues are. you may even want to consider seeing a counselor to help you work through them.
I still have bout with depression and it is something that I think I will eventually get over as they are becoming less and less frequent but I have been attending counseling with my wife and it has helped me see where I need to work because I know me, and I will not tell myself the truth sometimes because I don't want to hear the answer. My wife and my counselor, on the other hand, will tell me and it helps get it out in the open to deal with it. I will not allow this whole ordeal to define who I am as I know that old person and want nothing to do with him.
Keep focused on the positive and keep working and it will get better.
God Bless,
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