Post by freespirit on Dec 14, 2007 0:57:12 GMT -5
Hi,
I'm 28 years old and have been looking at porn and MB for well over a decade, probably closer to 14 years. It kind of stuns me to think i've been doing it half my life. To be honest, I can't say I've ever even been in a real relationship. Sometimes I feel like I live in an emotional prison because up until this point, I've lived with my parents my whole life. I realize now I should have left a while ago. They are good people, but I tend to get dragged down with the group emotions, get stressed out, and porn has been my crutch, my release, for almost half my life. It wasn't until this past summer I realized how this was a problem for me, and that I had trouble stopping. For a long time, I was a casual porn user, figured "everybody does it" and never really tried to stop. Last year, I went through a very traumatic experience at my former employer and that kind of triggered me into what I realize now is a real problem. I read Ten Keys over the summer, followed it, and things were going pretty well. But the last few months for whatever reason, have been really difficult for me from the standpoint of dealing with this problem, and I can't seem to focus on the things that helped me out so much. Alot of my problem rests on the fact I use MB as a way to cope with stress, just like the books says. I'm so sick of this. I feel so awesome when I go a few days without a lapses, but I have trouble keeping any continuity. It may sound funny, but I even notice that when I go a few days or a week, I even tend to attract a lot more positive attention from women I don't know. Over the last few years, I've managed to successfully work on a lot of the "issues" I've had that have prevented me from dating and attracting the kind of women I'm interested, and feel like this is the one last obstacle I need to overcome. Can anyone share any advice? Maybe some examples or exercises that helped you cope better with stress, instead of using MB as a way out? I'm really glad I finally decided to sign up on here after a few months of just browsing because it's been beneficial for me to just write this.
I'm 28 years old and have been looking at porn and MB for well over a decade, probably closer to 14 years. It kind of stuns me to think i've been doing it half my life. To be honest, I can't say I've ever even been in a real relationship. Sometimes I feel like I live in an emotional prison because up until this point, I've lived with my parents my whole life. I realize now I should have left a while ago. They are good people, but I tend to get dragged down with the group emotions, get stressed out, and porn has been my crutch, my release, for almost half my life. It wasn't until this past summer I realized how this was a problem for me, and that I had trouble stopping. For a long time, I was a casual porn user, figured "everybody does it" and never really tried to stop. Last year, I went through a very traumatic experience at my former employer and that kind of triggered me into what I realize now is a real problem. I read Ten Keys over the summer, followed it, and things were going pretty well. But the last few months for whatever reason, have been really difficult for me from the standpoint of dealing with this problem, and I can't seem to focus on the things that helped me out so much. Alot of my problem rests on the fact I use MB as a way to cope with stress, just like the books says. I'm so sick of this. I feel so awesome when I go a few days without a lapses, but I have trouble keeping any continuity. It may sound funny, but I even notice that when I go a few days or a week, I even tend to attract a lot more positive attention from women I don't know. Over the last few years, I've managed to successfully work on a lot of the "issues" I've had that have prevented me from dating and attracting the kind of women I'm interested, and feel like this is the one last obstacle I need to overcome. Can anyone share any advice? Maybe some examples or exercises that helped you cope better with stress, instead of using MB as a way out? I'm really glad I finally decided to sign up on here after a few months of just browsing because it's been beneficial for me to just write this.